I have just recently broken up with my bf of 8 years in January, and now he is already engaged to the new girl in his life after several weeks. I am still in love with him and miss his companionship so much. I can not comprehend being with another person. When will this feeling go away? I thought that WE were going to get married... Does it seem like he is on the rebound?
2007-03-01 20:22:05 · 8 answers · asked by Jasmina 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They were chatting online for about a month before we broke up... Still that is pretty quick...
2007-03-01 20:32:57 · update #1
It's perfectly normal to feel the way you do. 8 years is an awful long time. Don't rush yourself and don't expect too much from yourself. Time heals all wounds, keep that in mind. As for him, really the first start to getting over him is to stop worrying about what he is doing and why he is doing it. Any reasonable person can see he is on the rebound, but that's not your problem anymore. Find someway to stay busy, do some things you haven't done in a while and just work on you. I know your loss is great but your strength will continue to grow even greater with every passing day. Be your own best friend and give yourself what you need to go on, which means focusing on yourself. Find a way to see some sort of empowerment in this change in your life.
Best of luck to you and keep your chin up.
2007-03-01 20:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is on the rebound. 75% of those fail. That said, break contact with him, go out and find new things to do. DATE 3 new people in the next month (Just DATE) and take a look at the issues that caused your split. If it is meant to be it will be, if not, then you are already in pretty good shape to move on. DOnt sit at home pining for him. He's not.
2007-03-01 21:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't expect him to return and don't wait. The pain would be lesser if you do things you enjoy and move on with your life. You deserve someone better to think that he broke off with you after 8 years or relationship and got engaged within several weeks is unthinkable. Stop hurting yourself. Move on!
2007-03-01 20:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he start the relationship after you split? If so it is quick but sometimes you just know when the right person comes along. You need to go out and enjoy yourself. You are going to be hurting for a while. Throw yourself into something passionately so you are focused on something else.
2007-03-01 20:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by karena k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does seem like a rebound. But that doesnt mean you should wait around until it ends so you can go for attempt number two with this guy. You need to move on. Theres no question about it.
2007-03-01 20:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as soon as you can. think of it this way, how much did u mean to that person if they could drop you for another girl after an 8 year relationship AND get engaged to that girl in a couple weeks??
get over him as soon as you can. if he can drop you and do that to you, hes not worth your time at all.
2007-03-01 20:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by cellie_mania 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should move on from your ex! after 8 years? he would never have married you. if he marries her it won't last, but you should not care.
2007-03-01 20:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u forger everything ..concentrate on ur future...like education....what wver happend is good?.......be ambitious.......then later part of life u can enjoyyy
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2007-03-01 20:34:46 · answer #8 · answered by manhihash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋