I am past the point of dating. Happily married. But, do you ever miss the rosy hued period?

Question

of just having met, when even each others imperfections brings delight? It all has to end sometime. Sooner or later we roll out of bed and see each other with scraggly hair and morning breath, but in the beginning there is a sort of magic. We can't be white knights and princesses forever.

Answer 1

I sorta kinda think you can always keep that sort of magic when you truly love one another. Little things start to endear themselves to you after years that perhaps didn't at all when you were in the rosey hued period. That little drool that slips from their lips and is soaked up by their pillow is a tad repulsive in the beginning. Yet years later you roll over and see it and can't help but smile and say, "That's my guy."

You find the "favorite pen" the keys, the book, the golf tee, the whatever that he's always losing and you just roll your eyes and say....... "Thank gosh he'll never change!" Yet in the beginning you think he's just spacey.

You read a letter he writes to you years after you've been together and you still get chills and butterflies in your stomach, because........ it is love. True love.

Of course I miss that rosy hued period of a relationship merely because I'm not in one right now.....lol. But I can speak with confidence when I say..... if a relationship is important to you, you never ever ever let the rosey hue every disappear....... even years later.

Answer 2

No, things do change and romance evolves into something else. Having that rosy period has its limitations, too, because you can't be totally honest with each other either. There is a special connection between two people who can be totally naked and revealing to each other, too. The comfort level is different. And that only comes after some time.

However, I understand the longing for that beginning of that relationship where the sweet adrenaline is flowing and you are in pure ecstasy of a budding new romance. Keep nurturing the relationship and elements of that beginning with come back.

Answer 3

I do and we havent even really married yet. Our imperfections only seem to bring irritability and outbursts from one another.. it has turned into an egg shell walk, but yet we're still deeply in love with one another... the best way we like to get back to that initial period is to have a 'date' go somewhere were you can just talk... and promise to be completely open and that nothing each other says will be held against them...sometimes some ugly things come out.. but once all the poisons are out of our systems... there is a light and open feeling that is very reminiscent of the beginning

Answer 4

Have a date night once a month. Don't ride together. Meet somewhere for dinner and a movie. Agree to not talk about the kids or work. Pretend you just met. Promise to flirt with each other. You both need to agree to work on the romance and magic.

Answer 5

That's why I'm staying single & only dating.

Answer 6

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