im a stunning gal and my hubby is gorgeous weve been together for 7years and im madly in love with him and vise verse. my problem is that im overly jealous and it takes all ive got to conceal it. my blood boils when i see ladies checking him out and i feel even worse when hes checking them out. i know that its only natural to check out the opposite sex but i only have eyes for him well at least most of the time. it puts me in a bad mood when we are out at malls, etc cos i already know what to expect. he doesnt check out women blatantly cos he knows im jealous so hes more subtle about it these days(bless his heart) but i know he does it. and i sooooooooo hate. during the day i think about it and stress thinking about all the fun he could be having ( his job entails that he be out and about). please help me accept that its only natural with all the reasoning i try to do i have trouble with it. if i could only stop stressing about this stupid thing my life would be so peaceful.
2007-03-01 19:20:54 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lovie1234 thanx you speak sense hun
2007-03-01 22:00:39 · update #1
You can either get this in check or before its done your husband will not go anywhere with you much longer.
Some how you don't grasp that your husband is yours and no one Else's. So you try to self sabotage your relationship.
Most women/men that Ive met like this were very spoiled children as they grew up as a result of this you now are spoiled in your marriage. If you think about it I'm sure there are more things that you do other than this act of jealousy.
I'm sorry that life cant be all about you! Learn to give and give more. Give with no expectations of what your going to receive back.
Ive seen women/men that were out with their spouse and its blatant that they want to make the other person miserable. Before long it hinders their lives, job and job performance. So decide if your going to have a great time when your out with your husband or please keep yourself at home before long he wont ask you to go and who's fault will it be? No one likes walking on egg shells around the person they love.
2007-03-01 19:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by lovie12346 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I must say that being married or in a relationship, it is natural to feel vulnerable to a certain amount of jealousy. How much jealousy you experience can have something to do with you or your spouse. Is he giving you reason to feel jealous? You say your spouse checks out other women, but not blatantly. Maybe he shouldn't be checking them out at all, especially in front of you, and especially when he knows it makes you upset.
Talk to him more about it. Ask him what he's thinking when he's checking women out and that it makes you uncomfortable, as if he is looking out for other women and on the prowl. Some wives are more blase about the wandering eye than others. You are obviously not one of them and that is okay. You don't have to feel noncholant about it.
Also, take it easy, calm down, and simply communicate it more to him. Tell him it makes you feel insecure. Ask him how he would like it if you did that? Checking other guys out in front of him.
2007-03-01 19:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by shoshana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i feel for you but i think you should see a counselor because this will keep eating away at you and could eventually ruin your relationship go to your doctors and ask how to go about it at least you have taken the first step in admitting it is a problem good luck and i wish you all the best jealousy is an awful thing.
2007-03-01 19:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by clare w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I am the SAME exact way as you!!! I too know it is only human nature and our eyes and brains are hardwired to check out attractive things we see. But if he knows you are jealous, I kinda think its disrespectful of him. Well, I know when my bf does it, he doesnt think I notice, but my blood boils too-it makes me insecure and think that if he's checking out other women, why am I with him and I feel like a fool and humiliated and like chopped liver. I think he and I are both the same level of attractiveness. I glance at other guys occassionally too, but at least I respect us enough to not do it in front of him. I think this is a natural human emotion, human nature. I was told by a guy friend that most guys tend not to get as~ jealous as women because guys think only one thing: "well, she's coming home with ME, not that guy." If only girls could think like that. When I got crazy-jealous of my bf always talking about or checking out other girls, I got an article from my friend regarding comparing yourself to other girls, and knowing that YOU are holding the torch, YOu are the woman he is with, not them. If you find an answer to this jealousy thing-let me know, I could use a good answer too!
2007-03-01 19:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by Noodles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a member of the religion named Wicca has no longer some thing to do with having the present of speaking with spirits. As I said, Wicca is a faith. also, no you could't be Christian and Wiccan jointly. they're 2 diverse religions with conflicting perspectives on many non secular concerns. Being Wiccan even haven't to any extent further some thing to do with the shade of your eyes. It appears like you've study or watched too a lot youngster fiction.
2016-12-05 03:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you two are, but looks are not the only thing. You are married to each other. Does he wear a wedding ring? That will help. Same with you. Please, think of it this way, you see other women checking out your man. Instead of being jealous, please think of it this way-he is your man-not theirs. He chose you, not them. It's their loss, your gain that you have him as your man. As for him checking out other women, that is so normal for men, they think a sexual thought on average of about every 30 sec. His job may have him go out and about, but he comes home to you every night. And you come home to him every night. You two love each other. You have made the committment of marriage to each other. That is pretty strong evidence that you two are right for each other. I hope this helps you with your concerns. It sounds like the two of you have a good relationship. Take care.
2007-03-01 19:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh come on! Your allowed to be jealous but you said yourself, you love him. You stay and just deal with it or you move on. People look at people. If he is acting on none of it then there is no harm. He looks at you the same way, you know, when your not aware. So, stare at him, not at the passersby that happen to cross his field of vision. You going to ruin your relationship if you continue.
2007-03-01 19:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by shes_apples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that we all look and flirt. My husband look and I look and we flirt, but we both know we are joking and not insecure. As he always jokes with me and says you can look but don't touch, or as I joke with him I am always telling him I am going to go find a rich sugar daddy and his response is that's fine just send him the 75% and I always tell him the same to go find a rich hot mama like Paris Hilton and send me the money. Its just all part of a relationship and being secure with your partner. You obviously are not that secure it sounds like and happy in your relationship.
2007-03-01 19:29:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he married you and y'all have been together for 7 years, i think your hubby must be very much in love with you and very much attracted to you. and when you see woman checking him try to think of it as a compliment...because of all those woman that look at him, your the one that goes to bed with him every night. and about your own jealousy, theres not much you can do but to just forget about it, dont take him looking at another woman so seriously. if you catch him doing it, playfully smack him and say "honey I look way better than she does...whats wrong with you " or something along those lines. all in all just lighten up and be happy with your hunky man!!
2007-03-01 19:27:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol yes i rember thos day my wife was like that lol,,, i rember a young lady , came out to fill my car with gas, an my wife jumpping out an, telling her i did not heed her help, an did not nee to see her breast hangging out lool, but , as time went by she learn, i married her an was happy ,but you got to rember, he married, you ,anout of all the women out their he pick you,,,,,now if he did not love you, he be still out huntting,.. he a man, an it anly naturl, he going to look, an women going to look,,,,but rember ,you won his heart, an that what count,,,, i dont know a man a live, thet not going to look at a women,,,, unless he gay are bline,lol,,,but in time you learn it, nothing to it, an after 12 10 20 years, you be ready to ship him off lol , but you rember this you got his heart
2007-03-02 01:20:20 · answer #10 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋