HELP please?

Question

I've asked so many questions on here but I love to hear others views. Me and my ex of 7 years broke up and he moved 2000 miles away..Well, he moved before we broke up..I know there isn't another woman. I am pregnant with his child and we are very young...22 & 23. We had our wedding planned before the baby. Dr. said I would never be able to have kids..my ex wanted one and I ended up getting pregnant. We wasn't trying because of what the Dr. told me. He was very excited while I was kind of depressed because I wanted to be married and have my degree. Now, I wish he comes back and I know alot of people thinks that is stupid. We had a pretty good relationship, His father walked out on him as a baby. He tells me he misses me and loves me but picks stupid fights..Does distance really make the heart grow fonder?? I told him last night we shouldn't talk until we clear our heads..Has this every happened to anyone? He says we "can't" work it out..but yet sends me mixed signals..

Yet tonight he txted me telling me he loves and misses me yet again...

Answer 1

You said yourself, you would rather had been married and with a degree. You now have no choice, so... you have to face this. He on the other hand, does not. From the bit I have heard, he is uncertain, just like you are, and he is having a tough time facing it. He sees his life wide open 2000 miles away from you, but at the same time is being tugged by what he knows is right, and his love for you. Distance does not make the heart grow stronger... Absense does. There is a distinct difference. Your friends think you are foolish for wanting him back, so there is more to this story than you are letting on. He is confused, and hasn't decided between what he feels is right, and what he just simply feels like doing. Pulling at him, making him feel like he no longer has options, (and I know... that is the situation you are in, but you have already faced it... )... will only make him more volatile, and less likely to agree to being "cornered". Somehow he needs to see on his on, the right choice of action.