My wife is acting totally different now that we are getting separated after 8yrs of marriage and 2 children, she is talking about doing things that we haven't done before, both sexually and otherwise. What is the reason for the change? Is it because we didn't communicate very well in our marriage? Or is it because she is trying to relive her youth? She is seeing someone else and she is sending him provocative messages and pictures all the time. She never did that for me. I asked her why and she said that she feels different about her new relationship. It makes me mad because I see the way she is acting now and it makes her look like a s***, and I don't want her to be like that. She says she has not been intimate with him, and I believe her, I have no reason to believe otherwise. I just want to understand what is going on in her head because I don't want to see her get hurt.
2007-03-01 19:08:48 · 10 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let go man....let go. It will drive you crazy
2007-03-01 19:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by Greed...Is Good 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, the person that she is seeing now made her change. Likings for someone changes a person. She may have lost the interest in you (sorry to have said that). Maybe is that in the 1st place during your relationship time before marriage she was looking for someone who admire her and adore her or dotes on her? Reason that she want to relive her youth could be she wants something daring,sexy,intimate,romance that both of you have not experenience n yet she want? Do you know in the 1st place y she chosen to marry you? I knew it hurts you. Have the both of you really settle down for separation? Before separation, have the both of u really sit down to talk or to seek for counsellings? For the sake of your 2 kids, i think if u still treats her as your wife n still love her, u can change yourself to what she needs? Partly might be the both of u did not communicate well in your marriage. 8 years of marriage being together wasnt easy. U have to let her know that you love her n do not want her to get hurt by others. (never to force or raise your voice at her) Women beome softer when you talk to her nicely. Never say your wife a S**t. Show respects for her.
2007-03-02 04:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by Endless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in your heart you still care about her, but to her the marrige is over. She is trying to be sexy and wild, and catch the other man's attention. Maybe she was consevertive in the marrige because she felt like that was what you wanted. She is either trying to live it up now, or make you jelious and fall back into her arms because another man finds her attractive. Maybe her trying differant things sexually with you is her trying to win you back. But I think that communication was the real problem in your realationship.
2007-03-02 03:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by Abigail M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO,
THIS MAY AND MAY NOT ANSWER WHAT YOU WANT ME TOO....BUT MY LAST RELATIONSHIP WAS 6 YEARS....HE WAS A CONTROLING PRICK......BUT I DRESSED VERY HOMELY SO OTHER GUYS WOULD NOT LOOK AT ME WHILE I WAS WITH HIM....BUT AFTER WE SPLIT UP I STARTED DRESSING WITH FORM FITTING CLOTHING AND PUTING MAKE UP ON AND FIXING MY HAIR AGAIN.....BUT I SIS NOT GET WITH ANY OTHER GUY TILL NOW AND THAT HAS BEEN 2 YEARS.......BUT MAY BE SHE HAS TO FEEL SEXY AND RELIVE HER WONDERYEARS SO TO SAY TO ATTRACT A GUY.....WHEN ALL AND ALL YOU NEED TO BE YOUR SELF.....YOU NEED TO LEANR TO PART WITH YOUR FEELINGS BECAUSE SHE IS ALSO TRYING TO HURT YOU.......I DON'T MEAN TO BE BLUNT BUT THAS HER WAY OF TELLING YOU I AM SINGLE AGAIN AND THERES NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT....JUST HAVE HER KEEP THE MEN SHE IS WITH OUT OF THE CHILDRENS LIVES THATS NOT RIGHT TO THEM TO STRING THEM ALONG WITH THE ROLLER COASTER RIDE SHE IS GOING ON.....I REALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH BECAUSE MY EX DID AND STILL DOES THE SAME THING AND I ALSO ASKED HIM WHY SO MANY WOMEN AND ITS ALL BECAUSE OF FREEDOM.....BUT THATS Y I WILL NEVER GO BACK TO HIM ALSO I DO NOT WANT AN STD AND THATS ONE SURE WAY OF GETTING ONE....LOL.....YOUR EX IS WHAT GIVES THE GOOD WOMEN OUT HERE A BAD NAME AND I AM SORRY THAT I HAVE SAID THAT TOO......BUT JUST SEPERATE YOUR SELF FROM HER AND CUT THE FEELINGS.....I KNOW PERSONALY THAT YOUR GOING TO CARE FOR HER BUT SHE ALSO KNOWS THAT SHE IS HURTING YOU EVERY TIME SHE TELLS YOU SOME THING......SO JUST SIMPLY TELL HER SHE NEEDS TO KEEP HER BUSINESS TO HER SELF AND NOT TO INVOLVE YOU....THAT YOUR THERE FOR HER WHEN SHE NEEDS YOU BUT NOT FOR HER FLINGS....THATS WHAT I HAD TO TELL MY EX WHEN HE WOULD THROW THINGS LIKE SHE IS IN MY FACE....AND HE FINALY GOT THE POINT WHEN I WOULD DROP THE BABY OFF AND LEAVE WITH OUT TALKING TOO HIM....THATS WHAT YOUR GOING TO HAVE TO DO IN ORDER TO GET THROUGH TO HER....JUST BE BLUNT AND KINDA ARROGANT SO SHE GETS THE HINT.....BUT THATS THE BEST I CAN DO FOR MOW IF YOU NEED TO TALK YOU CAN EMAIL ME IF YA WANT I WILL TRY TO HELP THE MOST I CAN......
2007-03-02 03:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if she has change? I think it would be best if you mind your own business since as you've said you're already separated and she's in a new relationship.
2007-03-02 03:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by LadyLuv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Im sorry, but what about you. Dont you have any balls? Who is the head of your household? Shes not just sending pictures honey. Wake up! Im sorry.
2007-03-02 03:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is going on in her head is that she now has the freedom to do as she pleases without having to answer to anyone.
2007-03-02 03:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You do not have to understand anything except this: What she does, whom she does it with, and how she acts is no longer any business of yours.
2007-03-02 03:24:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has successfully created jealously in her husband.
2007-03-02 03:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she don,t comfort able from you
2007-03-02 03:26:09 · answer #10 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋