I was always under the impression she's been with a larger than normal number a people but 30+ was still quite a shocker. Guys but mostly other girls she says. I don't even know what to think at this point. Looking for some advise outside the bubble.
2007-03-01 18:36:38 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well I never would have thought the extremeness of 30+ sexual partners would be so subjective. I was always under the impression keeping it on one hand (maybe two) was the acceptable standard. I have no problem looking past her previous choices but I just wanted to know how out of the ordinary it was. I understand as I am now getting a little older (24) so my partners are going to have more and more sexual experiance and well If nothing I'd like to at least have some minimal standards and not just settle for some whore. Thank you very much for all your responces.
2007-03-01 19:32:46 · update #1
30 + people ?!?!?!?!?
I'm honestly just as shocked as you are. That's an incredible amount of people.... I wouldn't feel good if my boyfriend was with that many people... WITH as in "had sex WITH" and not just BEING with that person. Still. Wow.
I just hope you two haven't had sex yet. This is another reason why you should wait till marriage to do it.
2007-03-01 18:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if thats the case then she has probably not been able to find the right partner. If being with you has been the longest time she's been with any partner and if during this time she has been faithful to you, then she has found you to be the right man for her. What happened in the past should not matter. We all experiment with our lives, going in different directions until we find the right path. She has experimented with both genders but is now with you. So we can say thats her real self, a hetero. What matters most is YOU. If you really love her and can accept her past and also her sexual tendencies, then you are ok, provided she too loves you and stays with you for good. I suggest stop asking others what to do. Sit down alone and give it a good, long thinking. Only YOU know your feelings towards her and your acceptance level towards sexual practices. You will get hundreds of different opinions here and all would lead you towards more confusion.
2007-03-02 03:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by The Dream Merchant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Larger than normal number? Men have sex with ten different women a year, and are studs. By the time they're thirty they've been with two hundred different women, and that's great.
Most women who have sex like that are very insecure and they look to sex as a means to prove that they are loved and desirable. Normally this comes from a difficult childhood and abuse. Don't reject her just on this alone.
I would bet that if you talk to her, she has suffered a great deal in her life and feels as if she's not good enough. Don't prove her right.
2007-03-02 02:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by Theresa A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she is not cheating on you now...why would you care how many people she's been with??? She could have lied to you and if you leave her and hook up with another lady, she might lie to you and you trusting that she hasn't been with that many partners might not use much protection and catch something...
We always say, be honest but when someone is ....it back fires...If she is playing around on you or giving you the impression that you are not satisfying her, then that is a problem, otherwise, just enjoy your life and stop trying to find something to mess it up....
My opinion...
2007-03-02 13:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if you love her and she is faithful then what is the difficulty. So what....in fact she maybe alot better in the sack for it and prolly more willing to experiment with some of your wild ideas. This could really be a blessing in disguise and if she is into girls you may well have every mans sexual fantasy one day.
2007-03-02 02:41:27 · answer #5 · answered by HOCKEYGURU 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you go searching for trouble you will always find it! You should have asked to take a HIV test in the beginning and let the past be the past. Rule No.1 Test first ask only if you have probable cause!
2007-03-02 02:42:38 · answer #6 · answered by ljjmjd3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must have told you this, (the amount of lovers) because you asked.
Her past is not an issue, regardless of whether she has had one lover or 30. You are together, because you like each other. Dont let jealousy nor insecurity destroy your relationship.
2007-03-02 03:27:43 · answer #7 · answered by calexico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would I do? I'd consider myself lucky...
One of the fortunate ones
disengaging any kind of relationship with her would be premature act in haste...know her heart and medical clearance as well...
Feels good now, doesn't it. Take a deep breath and sigh in relief...
OH BY THE WAY, JUST TO PLAY IT SAFE, KEEP A PIECE OF YOUR HEART IN YOUR HIP POCKET. DON'T WANT TO SHARE IT ALL...
2007-03-02 02:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You only know the answer, you get to be around her to know her! So she has a past, and is she like real young or older? If she is like in her 20's expect that. If shes in her teens its not a good sign.
I would say dont trust her, she likes to hump around!
2007-03-02 02:42:53 · answer #9 · answered by SLICK K1DD 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if you love each other, and you are both willing to be faithful, it should have no impact on your thoughts about her. Just make sure you are both disease free. If it really bothers you that much, I would say move on, but that would be hypocritical on your part.
2007-03-02 02:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by Pauly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋