A marriage spice up that is required.We were marrried to young I beleive....?

Question

My husband and I are business proffessionals and are very riske', we are also fit/attractive and I wanted some advice. We are arranging to have a live feed take place on the internet were we both wear complete latex masks that cover our identity and I get "involved" with many men that we have had professionally scanned/tested. This is my fantasy that I want to have fullfilled as I have always wanted to be on my knees and be the center of attention of allot of men and then be airtight for hours on end after as I have only experienced this feeling with toys and my husband, I hear it is the ultimate feeling to be filled up in real life. My husband is now having second thoughts after we have spent $1,0000's and 4 months planning this event.......should I do this for myself maybe even on the sly as I could arrange that he could never know ? I now need this to happen as I have been fantasising about it since we had first thought about it 4 months ago with his aproval, should I do it ???????

Answer 1

let me know if money CAN buy happiness...

Answer 2

Your going to end up jeopardizing your marriage stop and think about this fantasy is just that fantasy! People's feelings is another thing you are planning to willingly risk hurting your husbands feelings just for a sexual fantasy,don't delude yourself that he won't find out things have a funny way of being found out. Talk to your husband explain how you feel about the need to do this if he still won't budge then it's a case of what do you want to do most sorry :)

Answer 3

If this means more to you than your husband, then go ahead. Otherwise I'd consult him.

With most things people in a marriage should be somewhat free to express themselves and enjoy things as they wish, but with sexual or other intimate subjects, consulting the other partner is probably a good idea. Plus, it'd be a good idea to have him on board, because emotions you don't think of before the fact (like jealousy) could easily pop up after things have happened.

Answer 4

Personally, I think as individuals should do what is comfortable and makes them happy.

I think you should review why your husband changed his mind; though I think it might demonstrate a lack of creativity on his part for not accepting your desires, for it sounds like you would accept his.

There may be something about your husband in his confidence with others, that just has not shown in the bed yet. This is something I think you might find and talk more about.

Don't be afraid to express yourself and later if he still doesn't agree; you do what you think is right for you but demonstrates respect for your marriage as well.

Answer 5

If you do it without your husbands approval, you are cheating. What if he finds out? Are you willing to hurt your husband like that for a fantasy? Sometimes, things are best left as a fantasy and more stimulating that way. You might even find that you don't even enjoy it or you might find that you enjoy it so much that you'll want to do it again and again and lose your husband over it. Are you willing to throw away your marriage for sexual curiousity and fantasy?

Answer 6

i wouldnt.

but seeing a sex counselor may help if you all are having challanges in that area...they may be able to help with a neutral idea you both can appreciate and complete...

regardless of the money spent..if he's uncomfortable with it, its not worth the monetary loss if the love is there....after all as professionals you are familiar with the risks involved with stocks...no different in love...

Answer 7

The plan is free sex and no husband wud like to have for the fun of his wife.