Is having no common sense a disorder?

Question

My girlfriend is very intelligent when it comes to things that she learned in school but i am having a real problem with her when she has to think about things, we live together so i see this more than other people although i am not the only one that sees it , she has no common sense at all and it seems to get worse, lately it is so bad, it's like she can't even think on her own, the simplest of things that require her to think a little bit are out of the question. And she forgets things that she said 5 minutes prior but can remember things she did when she was 3 years old. In fact it is getting so bad that i am starting to worry about her and think she might need to see some kind of professional help anyone with any information that might have seeen this before please let me . Could it be a chemical imbalence in her brain or something? I dont know thats why i am here. Thanks

Answer 1

Academic smarts and street smarts are two entirely different entities. It's possible that your girlfriend led a very sheltered life, up until now. If that is the case, it will take her a while to catch up in this area.

As far as her not thinking on her own--are you doing all of her thinking for her--ordering her food? making all the plans? If so, you are not doing her any favors. She needs to learn to make some of these decisions on her own. If her parents made all of her decisions for her in her past, she really needs to get into decision-making.

I remember more about my early childhood than I do about--yesterday. For some reason, certain details from those years just stick out in my mind. This is not uncommon, though, I've met many others who say they are the same in this matter.

You can help her by asking her to pick out the food she wants to eat, to pick out the movies she wants to see, to pick out the places she wants to go to on dates, etc. Give her plenty of notice, so that she can come up with something before the day that you are going out/shopping, etc.

At this point, from the info that you have provided, I don't think she needs a professional. She needs you, family and friends to be supportive of her, and to help her to mature. If it becomes worse, you might want to suggest therapy at some point.

Answer 2

This is an interesting question. In highschool, there was a boy in my sister's class that got nearly a perfect score on his SAT's. However, everyone said that he *lacked common sense*. Believe it or not, it was only brought up to my attention about a month ago that "What might be common sense to you, might not be common sense to someone else." Although I understand this statement, I agree with you that it is difficult to understand why others just do NOT get the *obvious* or what is a given-things that school does not teach you but somewhere sometime in life you pick up on certain things that need not be verbally told (ie. never stick your finger in a socket, etc...) I don't think of it so much as a neurological disorder, so much as she hadn't been told otherwise by anyone else about things others see as obvious & transparent. I gather common sense things are things that 95% of society just is in the know of...but not your gf?...In regards to her memory, some have better long term than short term memory, I guess this is hard wired. The common sense thing though, ... whether it be on worldly ideas, courtesies, relationship manners, simple facts...try humoring her and let her in on what 95% of the rest of us already randomly know-whatever it may be~ that way she won't be left in the dark. Tis far better to KNOW than to NOT know I always say! Hope this helps! :D

Answer 3

common sense is never common... mamabear and noodles hit the right spot when they said that street smart and the common sense in others are not the same...

You need to keep in mind that there might be an event in her life that happened that made her think like this... first, an accident. I had an accident and I am having a problem in my short term memory... I died for a few minutes when I was a baby... second, an internal rule or law... she does not wish to remember certain aspects in her life once she has passed through it... selective amnesia... he he... so it could be her own decision not to remember it... or not act on it...

Imagine all people to have a history all their own... so do you... now from those we choose or not what we are going to think... feel... and do...

There is usually a reason for this and you will find it out in the long run... just be gentle to let her bring it out, not you... you might find the answer in a normal conversation (not argument) on a daily basis... she will just blurt it out... just be gentle and care for her... if she is safe... she will tell you everything and you would understand the "WHY?" Isn't that exciting?!?!?! Getting to know another person deep down inside...

I hope this would help... or maybe not... ;-)

Answer 4

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Is having no common sense a disorder?
My girlfriend is very intelligent when it comes to things that she learned in school but i am having a real problem with her when she has to think about things, we live together so i see this more than other people although i am not the only one that sees it , she has no common sense at all and it...

Answer 5

There are many many people around that don't have any common sense. I hate to tell you, but you seem to be in the select few that even notice it. And I think you're confusing education and intelligence. Education is the ability to remember someone else's thoughts and pass a test. Intelligence is the ability to come up with your own thoughts. If you can put up with it, stay with her. It's a lonely road looking for other intelligent people....

Answer 6

I am a bit confused:
You say your girlfiend has no common sense.
Then you say you think she might need to see some kind of professional.
Then you ask if this could be a chemical imbalance in her brain, and that's why you're here.
Do you think anybody HERE can diagnose a chemical imbalance in a brain?
I would be interested in reading how your girlfriend would phrase this question :)

Answer 7

Hormonal imbalances can cause poor memory and poor concentration. Also a tendency to rely on others to think for them causes some people to allow their brains to get lazy. Try getting your girlfriend to exercise her brain by doing crossword puzzles together, playing games that require some thinking, like pictionary or trivial pursuit. If all else fails, talk with her about it and see if she's noticed it too. It could be something like Adult ADD.

Answer 8

Sometimes when someone has a strong attraction or more than one they may miss some key points in life and people are not always kind and patience.

Answer 9

She should see a doctor before it deteriorates beyond repair.