how do one handled people who do bad things to you without knowing then you discover?

Answer 1

Could you put that in english please?

Answer 2

if its really bad then confrontation may be necessary, not to belittle or badmouth them for what they did (although you may feel that way) but to bring the issue out to deal with. a real friend will realize the error of their ways and apologize...a guilty or selfish friend with justify their actions...then you have to decide if their friendship is worth the effort or, if you care about that person, let him/her know that you were hurt and not to do it again.

feelings arent wrong, its how you express and control them that can make or break a situation.

best wishes!