i am from bangladesh and my gf is from kerela india. i am muslim and she is christian. we want to get married but our parents are against it. we love each sooo very much. i'd do anything to have her in my life. but we both desicded that we would not get married til our parents say ok .
i need help in finding ways that can help us achieve our goal
thanks in advance to evryone
2007-03-01 17:45:41 · 17 answers · asked by jinx_0334 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we want to keep our religions.
we talked about evrything.
inclusing where we want to live and the future of our kids and evrything
2007-03-02 07:53:00 · update #1
Each of you learn about each other's religion.
I think that you could be twice blessed.
If your wife honors you and your parents belief by taking part in services and holidays as much as is allowed and you do her family that same honor, then your respective families have to be moved by the debt of your commitment.
Look for all the ways you can be together and not those things that separate you, to justify your great love. Peace.
2007-03-07 17:06:24 · answer #1 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how strong a love relationship is in the beginning, it needs a good foundation to grow stronger and in a healthy way. Without the support and blessing of families, it can be much harder to handle all the things life throws at you. Children can be confused by two different religions and cultures if the parents have not resolved these issues and the families are also warring over the same issues.
2007-03-08 05:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by Over The Rainbow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both of your parents need to realize that you are happy together and that you do love each other very much. They should want nothing but the best for you both. Maybe there is a way to compromise with them on the details, but whatever you do, do not give up on the love that you two share. Love is a wonderful thing. Try to REALLY talk to them. Make them understand that youwant to spend your lives together. I so hope that everything works out for the both of you.
2007-03-08 17:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by tide chic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you guys agree to have two ceremonies, the Muslim and the Christian. You can make both your parent happy and will have another achievement in your relationship.
If you can't do that, then just follow your heart. If you guys love each other, then just get married. Your parents won't be in your life for ever, if she is the one, then she will be the person you will end your days with.
Good luck.
2007-03-08 10:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by Mami Chulisima!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice to be able to keep your religions however that SEEMS to be the hang up with BOTH your parents. Married couple do sometime compromise when it comes to marriage and occasionally they don't. If you want your parents blessings then I doubt that you will ever get married. If you go to one religion or the other then one set of parents will be hurt. You do have a major dilemma to wok out. Good Luck.
2007-03-09 11:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by andyt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CONRATULATIONS!
You decided to respect the views of your parents.
Hand over the issue to your respectful and respective parents.
It is upto them to find out the ways and means to fulfil your wishes of a class less /casteless ,alll religion bound marriage of yours.
You have decided your place o settlement etc and better find out rules prevailing in that country(India or bangla, or any other nation?). You can move the papers and get the help of the governments apart from the blessings of your parents.
Wish you good luck!
2007-03-08 05:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by NQS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they will ever say okay if they disapprove with you marrying her now. So, you may be waiting for a long time to get their approval. They will probably want her to convert to Islam in order for her to marry you. But, if you love her that much, will she be able to keep her religion or is this something you two haven't discussed about?
2007-03-01 17:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps if you are clear with your parents on the issues they have of you marrying... Tell them what decisions you have made together to handle the problems of the two religions and your children, it might make them feel more comfortable with your wish to marry.
2007-03-09 03:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by Lady M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too have married someone out of my religionous faith. It has not been easy. You might want to reconsider marriage before you do that. I to this day love my husband but at time its hard because now we have children. I feel strongly about my faith and so does he. What happens I don't know! Please rethink it over because there was a time I too were saying what you are saying and to this day I'm still with my husband.
2007-03-09 02:50:45 · answer #9 · answered by love 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get Married by a Muslim priest and a christian priest. Have a Muslim-Christian Wedding. If you are in love they should not stop you two.
2007-03-07 14:31:51 · answer #10 · answered by Peppermint Patti 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋