It never fails, everytime my husbands asks me to wake him up I dread it. I've tried waking him up a number of different ways, but every time he wakes up startled and jumps up. Any suggestions? Why does he do that?
2007-03-01 17:39:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Because he didn't tell you about the 2 years he served in Kingston County Jail where he was Big John's boytoy.
2007-03-01 17:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happens when someone is over stressed. It's how their nervous system works. My mother is like this, sometimes when her cell phone rings, even when she is awake, she jumps out of her skin. Often a few conversations with a counselor will ease the reaction, but not always. If it doesn't help, ask the counselor for referrals to other health professionals. Don't give up, correcting this is not instant.
2007-03-01 17:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be that he is very deeply dreaming about something unpleasant. Just talk to him a bit before you wake him, softly at first, then slightly louder, until he awakens. This way, you have a chance of invovling your voice into his dream, and it may make the transition easier.
2007-03-01 17:48:41 · answer #3 · answered by The Canadian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your trying to wake him up with scarying him, but he is startled still. Next time, try and scare the crap outta him...he might wake up just fine.
Hey, you never know
2007-03-01 17:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine you want some stability. As a former operating mom I DO see the cost interior the guy who worked all day getting some "me" time at the same time as they arrive interior the door. notwithstanding it is going to probable be constrained. at the same time as our son became that youthful my husband and that i had a rule that whoever walked interior the door from artwork had 40 5 minutes (until eventually the guy who became residing house became completely dropping it) to relax, substitute clothing, drink a beer in the journey that they wanted to, earlier hopping into toddler care. for sure, on the days when we both worked, i became the guy who hopped into toddler care, yet such is motherhood. I also imagine, in accordance to my journey, that some adult men sense truly helpless at the same time as confronted with a baby as youthful as your daughter and this can likely get extra appropriate because the toddler receives older. it really is an completely diverse portion of play blocks or dolls with a touch one than attempt to assuage a fussy toddler that desires her mom. i'm no longer conserving he's sweet, i'm in simple terms conserving that this would nicely be a momentary subject. at the same time as the toddler starts napping extra, and is extra thrilling to loaf round with, you'll locate that the topic disappears. until eventually then, i imagine you want to be VERY particular. Like "i favor you to loaf round with the toddler until eventually I end the dishes. Then i'm making myself a cup of tea and sitting on the decrease back porch on my own for quarter-hour. Then i am going to relieve you." And be glad about the breaks he DOES grant you with, regardless of if it would not sense like truly sufficient. i comprehend it really is confusing. I actually were given a touch mileage at this communicate about of this one: "at the same time as our son is an adolescent, will you look decrease back in this time and characteristic fond thoughts of the time that you obtain to study that article on slashdot?" yet use that type of guilting sparingly - it starts fights. :( I also pick to say, as someone who has been by this, that you're VERY VERY drained. i comprehend. And your nerves are on area and each thing makes you irritable. It does no longer advise that lots of the failings your husband does or does no longer do are not nerve-racking, notwithstanding it does advise, lower back, that once the toddler starts napping extra you would have extra attitude. a reliable rule of thumb: do not call the divorce attorneys until eventually the toddler starts napping by the nighttime. ;)
2016-12-05 03:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to use something familiar to get him up, brew coffee, maybe the smell will get him up, or turn on the morning radio. if that doesn't work. don't shake him to wake him, try calling his name calmly but not too soft, to wakw him..You are probably just startling him.
2007-03-01 17:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by GreyRainbow 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He has issues . Get him a noisy clock and let him be responsible for his own wake-ups . You're his wife ; not his mama .
2007-03-01 18:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by missmayzie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol, that's so funny, I do the same crap, well sort of. I'm a grumpy bastard when I get woken up. Like you, my wife dreaded it, but she's used to it now.
2007-03-01 17:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by Pontius 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wake him up with a BJ.
he will wake nice and relaxed !
2007-03-01 17:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jester 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should pan the bastard get a metal garbage can lid and throw it on the floor beside him and give him real reason to jump...
2007-03-01 17:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by Iam_canadian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋