They said that they were coming, and then my husband and his brother had a small spat, and now they say they are doing something else. How should I respond to this and her e-mail? It does matter. I write down in my daughter's growing up books about all the people who visit her, and etc. I refuse to lie and put them in the book. They are jealous that we have children, even though they just got pregnant. Help!
2007-03-01 17:23:22 · 10 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
P.S: It also a celebration of her recovering from Torticollis, a musclar defect!
2007-03-01 17:38:09 · update #1
ignore their selfish ignorance and enjoy your daughter's birthday! if they want to cheat themselves out of the preciousness of a child's birthday it's their loss-do not feed into them immature negativity! take plenty of pics so when they get over it, they can still enjoy what they missed if and when they get over themselves.
hopefully its a one-time issue that wont be ongoing and create chaos between two cousins as they get older (you said his wife was pregnant and they were jealous). feeding a bug of jealousy with retribution will only make things worse...its a shame when children become the pawns of revenge because they are innocent in the process, but some people see getback instead of seeing the bigger picture-quaity family time.
sometimes you can fan out a flame with kindness....and in the course of doing so, prevent future drama.
best wishes
2007-03-01 17:49:07 · answer #1 · answered by D.... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres really nothing you can do. If you get upset at them that might break your ties , this can be bad, you both can miss out in soo much. But you should tell them that you hope its not because of the spat because the effects are on the child. I understand that the first bday is important but there will be many more that they can make it. And no you should fake it and put it in your daughters book. For this , it might be better that you be the grown up and bite the bullet so this doesnt happen again in the future.
2007-03-01 17:28:11 · answer #2 · answered by JENNIFER C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i didn't even read the other answers on this one ok i read the first 2 then i had to say something. this isn't just a b-day. and pics will be taken and they are dissing your child . so if your not going to be her voice who is they are saying that they care more about themselves than a little fighter you got at home that is just getting better.small spats don't =them not coming tell them your more than willing to make it a bigger spat and we'll see how they handle it when they have a child and your not there for all the stuff they thought was so insignificant with your kid. don't put them in the book and they are probably jealous about something i think tit for tat here!and i don't think it's petty or that first b-days are dumb either. my son loves looking at those pics and seeing all those smiling faces watch and see if she doesn't ask why they didn't show. who's gonna lie then?
2007-03-01 17:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are not coming, they are not coming. You can't force them go to a birthday party. What those two had is between them too and they both need to make things right. But don't make this a big deal about it. Your child is only turning 1 years old and she/he is not even going to remember who was at her party at that young age. So, don't make it a big deal, this is your child's party not yours or your husbands! If they don't show up, then do put their name in her books. At least you had invited them is what counts. I think for setting a good example to your child or if you have older ones, it would be good for them to see that your husband should call his brother and apologize to him. So at least he apologized and forgave him and what is left is the brother to do the same.
What I think is that you are the one having a problem with this, not the birthday child, so YOU are making a big deal about it.
Just have the birthday party without them. It's your child's birthday and no one else. They sure will be missing some fun!
2007-03-01 17:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you at the instant are not incorrect, plan it for the evening, because it is your loved ones and your daughter's specific social accumulating! If it became your husband, it fairly is different, yet your brother, however in a stunning way asked, would not have any expectancies of you to alter it. I say tell him: it is the time and place, in case you additionally could make it, which may be super! convey the Reddi-whip! ;) Congratulations and exceptionally chuffed b-day on your lady descendant!
2016-10-17 02:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by balikos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Birthday parties for 1 year old children are stupid and should only be celebrated by immediate family meaning mother father and siblings. The baby will never remember. It is selfish to put on a show.
2007-03-01 17:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ignore the email and refuse to get caught up in this. Enjoy the time with your daughter and have fun celebrating her birthday. Don't forget to take lots of pics.
2007-03-01 17:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says you have to lie...you just won't have their names listed as those who showed up for her birthday...BFD. You are simply being immature...especially accusing them of being "jealous". Are you grown up enough to even have a child, when you act like one yourself? Get over it. They're not going to be at the party...so what?
2007-03-01 17:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ignore them, and hope they'll show up next year. Remember it is them missing out, not you ----happy 1st birthday ---woo hoo!
2007-03-01 17:25:46 · answer #9 · answered by XOXOXOXO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forgive them fore being shallow with appointments
and enjoy the other guests rc!
2007-03-01 17:32:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋