I am overweight after my last two kids, and even though i'm losing the wieght, i feel extremely unattractive to my husband. Does anyone have a helpful mantra or tips to help me through the bad days?
2007-03-01 17:20:37 · 12 answers · asked by dreamer 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Girlfriend, tell your man how you feel, if he can, he needs to be your self-image booster, your best cheerleader and remember, sexy is in the mind...he knows you are losing the weight...so do you...surprise him by "taking" what you want from him and being the aggressor in instigating your intimate time together...you will feel more and more sexy with each pound you lose...45 year old mother of 3 young adults...married to the same man for 28 years...i'm telling you, sexy is a state of mind..."tease" him sometimes when you know that you can dish out later...stroke him somewhere on his body that will shock him...do the stroking in the same room with the kids without them knowing of course and then give his ear lobe a little kiss...as you wisper...see you after the 10 o'clock news...or whatever; make it fun again...it will boost your self esteem and your self image, besides, look at those children you created and are raising up...you are doing a great job!
2007-03-01 17:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by sweetie pie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here are some things to try no miracles just starting points if you will ... give em a try see if they work ...
1) go to a local gym YMCA if you have one ... join go once a week when you get comfortable with that twice then 3 times try not to go more than that unless you want to sign up for yoga go every day for about 30 minutes or you can go a few times and make the time to practice at home for 30 minutes ...
2) go to a day spa get pamperd ... get a new hair cut , nails , pedicure ... mabey a lil waxing ...
3) do some shopping nothing extravagant go to walmart ... local goodwill ... thrift store ... buy some new clothes for your work outs ...
4) diet green tea go buy some walmart is the cheapest and drink one per day make it your lunch ONLY that no food ... you will loose weight ...
5) start a journal for your progress that way each time you accomplish something you will have a record and for those days that you feel down stroll back over what GOOD you have done ....
try these things see how you feel give it a go for about a month see if there is a difference ....
Good luck !!
2007-03-01 17:27:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a serious pick me up! If you're overweight and would like to do something about it, definitely join a gym (I prefer the YMCA), meet with a trainer who will go around the facility with you showing you exactly how to work each machine, etc. And they will set you up on a workout program. Along with working out, I've had success in doing herbalife for a few months until I've shed the weight I've wanted to lose. Mind you though, I also work out and watch what I eat.
I would do the pampering thing as well. It ALWAYS makes me feel better. If you're a stay at home mom, get up, shower, do your hair, put on makeup and something other than sweats. Just make yourself feel good.
Get a journal and begin to write down the things that make you happy, lift your spirits and put a smile on your face! In fact, journal about how you're feeling.
Hope this helps.
2007-03-09 05:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by philygrl72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about this? I'm tired of society telling women that they are failures if they are not very thin and look 20 years old until they're 75. You have had three children, and you don't look 20 anymore because you aren't. You are losing weight, and that's important for your health.
On top of all that, any woman who can sustain a marriage and has the love and selflessness to give her life (and her figure!) to raising three kids and running a home is truly beautiful, inside and out. Your body has the kind of beauty society rejects. Your body has the beauty that only a body that has conceived and nurtured and given birth to babies can possess, and you have a right to be proud of that.
I'm sure your husband understands the changes your body has gone through and loves you just the same. I'm sure he finds you beautiful because you are the woman who loves him and cares for him and his kids.
Keep losing weight because it's good for your physical and mental health, and in the meantime enjoy your family and walk with your head held high and don't let anyone make you believe that your worth is based on your weight and your looks.
I have a relative who is 43, has two children, weighs about 100 pounds, and that's all she's got is her figure. She is unhappy, insecure, obsessed with food and her clothes and the opinions of others, and now she's upset because her face is shrinking into itself and the doctor told her she can fix that by gaining 10 pounds. She is beside herself over this. I feel sorry for her. But think about this. She has two children, and somehow her lack of self-worth and her beliefs about what really matters are going to affect her children.
I know I went on and on, but I'm so sick of women feeling inferior and ugly and fat because they want to be mothers and wives. Being a mother and a wife is a beautiful, noble calling, and don't ever forget it.
2007-03-01 17:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 02:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by lachermeier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In those bad days, just think that you are so beautiful. You are so strong by being able to have kids.
To feel that extra bit of sexy, I suggest doing something scandalous... Like... Getting a nice low cut top and take some pictures for your husband.. Give them to him as a special presant.
That and the extra boost of confidence from the photo-shoot will totally make you happy!
(worked for a few friends or mine! Good luck!!!)
2007-03-08 13:35:35 · answer #6 · answered by Emily T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend taking a day to yourself to have your hair cut or shaped, nice lunch, some shopping just to relax and do your own thing. That helps me to overcome those kinds of feelings.
2007-03-08 04:28:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes> Look in the mirror and say every morning that I am beautiful and believe what you see and sayi, everybody is beautiful regardless what anybody thinks. get out as much as you can and walk to feel better and get a lot of oxigen in the brain to relax you, as well. you are beautiful and you need to convince your self that is true>YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL and if you don't believe in you who would?
2007-03-09 16:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by irenkedezso 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you still think that you're overweight, its hard to boost your self image. So solve the weight problem first.
2007-03-08 18:25:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try reading Susan Powter's book "Stop the Insanity."
2007-03-06 19:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by sunflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋