I am single, 35, elementary teacher. All I've ever wanted is to be a mom (and wife). I have spent the last ten years with a man who treats me great and loves me but is commitment phobic. I won't have a child with him if he doesn't want that. I've tried starting other relationships with no luck. I feel my time is limited to have children. I want to be pregnant and have my own child. I am worried this is selfish...or that I am kind of giving up on the whole big picture of a happy family but would sacrifice anything to be a mom. I also fear having a son without a father. Though a girl also needs a dad, a feel more confident raising a daughter on my own. I am financially stable though at this point I live in an apartment. I have family and friends who are supportive. What do you think?
2007-03-01 16:54:24 · 6 answers · asked by Wendy L 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I think you shold do what your heart is telling you and give that man a chance at it again have a heart to heart talk and explain to him how you feel and how much it would mean to you maybe he will give in Good luck and baby dust your way.
2007-03-07 16:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by gg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should follow your heart and pursue you dream of becoming a mom. I would hate it that you waited another 10 years and you end up without a husband and more importantly, the child you long for. Yes, there will be struggles and sacrifices you will make as a single parent. No one ever said it would easy. But ask yourself, if you had to choose can you live without ever having a child or can you live with a child and never have a husband? Which one would tear you up inside more? Then make your choice. Also, there are so many organizations and single parent groups. And I am sure you have family and friends who will support you until the end. Good luck and God bless you.
2007-03-01 21:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by KAREN B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is fine if you want to be a mom go ahead and do it, it doesn't mean that you are giving up on the big picture. You can still meet someone and get married after you've had a baby! I am a single mum of an almost three year old son and i wouldn't have it any other way i love him to bits.
2007-03-01 16:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by bec 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO FOR IT!!!!
a father is good for a child but in a loving environment with just a mother,a child can grow up just as strong(if not stronger).You ca afford it and you want it badly enough,also you have loving family around you to help support you so go follow your dreams!!
whats stopping you?
2007-03-07 09:15:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are a teacher you love children and being around them, so if that is your only chance to have a child you should do it, you have almost all the components.....
2007-03-07 13:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by sweetgretchem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it. Never let anyone stand in the way of what you know will make you happy. Sometimes you have to do what you gotta do.
2007-03-06 02:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by $Bl@Ck BuTtAfLy$ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋