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i want to add a detail: my mother inlaw fights with me insults me totally treats me like garbage calls my family members by phone curses them, when they come over to visit she makes their visit akward by complainging about me that me and them both feel embarrassed, they told me they refuse to come due to this, i dont insult her or trash her at all i stayed quiet listening to her insults so much that i think im a low life for listening and not replying.. he says this is a lie and blames me and says im to blame for his moms behavior and he will not stop her that i have to love her for her to stop.. i cant love her from what she does: 1insults my relatives 2:lies to him about me so he can fight with me:3insults me in front of her family guests4:makes fun of me and laughs 5: acts nice when her son is there and acts tired and old as if dying 6:trashes me then tells her son i trashed her(tells the oppisite of the story cries to make the drama look too real) swears on God and holy things

my other question b4 this was,,why do guys stay quiet when their moms fight with their wife they dont even defend the wife,whats the reason u guys r staying quiet and acting blind and deaf but u always listen to ur moms complaints about wife and believe it without proof but with wife u need proof, r u scared of the mother?

GUYS WHO KNOW WHY THEN ANSWER PLZ DONT GET OFFENDED ITS JUST A QUESTION thanks

Answer 1

Get a divorce..
Move on..
Your husband should care for & protect you...

Answer 2

Remember, yesterday's daughter-in-law is today's mother-in-law. And today's daughter-in-law is tomorrow's mother-in-law. Basic funda is that, mother-in-law can never be a mother. So under no circumstance you can expect the love, affection, and everything you had from your mother. Secondly, you also would not have posted this question in the net, had your mother insulted you, or did whatever you claim that your MIL has done to you. So mothe is mother, MIL is MIL.

Thank god, your husband had not interfeared in the event and supported you. Had he done so, it would have carried the things from bad to worst?

In ifact, I face the similar situation from your husband's side. There must have been some reason for her indifferent beheaviour towards you. YOu are an educated person, Try to find out. And act accordingly. If you are a house wife I would advise to seek an employmentg and engage yourself with other activities outside, so also the time of confrontation is reduced.

Her beheaviour reflects the way she was brought up in her days, and the life she lived in. She might have come to an inference with her handful of information that daughter-in-laws are bad.

The best way for you to act as "Laghe Raho Munnabhai says". I think you see Hindi movie. Start Praising her in front of your relatives, and her friends and your husband patiently. Initially she may take your comments as sarcastically made. Later she will understand. After all, elders are children. When she beheaves odd, remember your childhood days. In spite of your parent's effort to please you with the best of their financial ability and time availability, you had grievances against them. So also your OLD MIL is having against you.

There are many people I have seen in their life who fight with their parents and parents in laws as they were bad and querelling characters, but repending at a later time during which the parents and parents in law have left on their heavenly journey. They cry some time for what they can not un do now.

Hence, my dear girl, these are passing clouds.

Now, your aim in life is to give the best education, time, love and affection to your husband and children. Ignore petty things at home. Preferably don't even discuss it. And have a peaceful life. Learn to live with elderly lunatics.

Answer 3

hi i answered ur first question. well as i told u i have similar problems.well my hubby got involved &things just got messier so i guess it is best if your man sticks out i know it can be very fustrating but take my advice from someone who knows when hubby sticks in then MILjust gets more hateful with u then husband feels bad 4 getting mad at mommy and takes it out on wife.someone else mentioned that todays MILwere yesterdays DIL maybe they were treated this way & don't know how else to actby the way dont't u just love #5,6 my husband has come to know the truth about his mom but still if u realy think about it no one can ever take moms place so 4 right now leave ur husband out of the pic in time he'll relize whats going on the more u nag about his mother hes gonna see u as the bad person. good luck hope everything works out for you

Answer 4

i feel sorry for you.
you have made certain things clear:
1.that your mother-in-law can not be compromised.
2.that your husband feels more for his mother than he does for you
3.he is neither understanding or matured enough to look at things from other angle
4.all this are beyond your individual limits of repair.otherwise you would not have asked us

now my feeling is that your mother-in-law is frightened and insecure by your presence. this is more, if she is a widow!

kindly take a professional counselling, in person, along with your husband if possible. please don't act from logic's and information's. you might still go down with depression and ideas of separation without understanding the real picture in a right perception.

i pray for your peaceful life.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Hmmm.. tough question...! guys have a habit of keeping their mouth shut when in trouble..!!Guess this is just their traits that can't be changed.

About your problem...the situation seems bad...!! Divorce seems to be the only solution..! If you have a kid then God saves you...!Then you will have to set your priorities.It is indeed difficult for the kids to grow with troubled parents..!!

Answer 7

i agree with you, a hubby should protect his wife from everyone. the mother in law wants control over everyone.. she is crazy to be so mean. i feel sad for you dear.i hope your hubby will grow a new set of testicles.

Answer 8

because most guys are mamas little boys, and thats how things will be

now its your choice if you wish to stay like this or if you want to get away from it and move on

Answer 9

u married him not ur in -laws so let him and them know that when u said u do u were talkin to him not them