I was talking to my boyfriend online. Can you please tell me what you think of this situation? This is my boyfriend of 5 months, who I really like a lot. Of course, I’m up for trying new things, but I’m not sure if I feel secure enough in our relationship to have a threesome. If I knew he was completely devoted to me, maybe I would think about it, but I’m not sure. I know he would never cheat on me, but something about this situation makes me feel uncomfortable.
My boyfriend(10:31:00 PM): yo i was thinking, like im being serious, we should have a 3some
Me (10:31:14 PM): with who
My boyfriend(10:31:20 PM): idk, some other ***** but no guys
Me (10:31:44 PM): u want to get w/ another girl
My boyfriend (10:31:52 PM): nooo
My boyfriend (10:31:54 PM): no i wanna just do some freaky ****
My boyfriend (10:32:12 PM): soemthing other then what weve been doing
Me (10:32:13 PM): oo, i think it should be a guy then
My boyfriend(10:32:25 PM): but i cant get with other guys
My boyfriend (10:32:31 PM): you can get with a girl if you want
Me (10:33:04 PM): ya i'm not really into girls that way....
Me (10:33:10 PM): but i'll try somthin new
My boyfriend (10:33:11 PM): sooo… come on
My boyfriend (10:33:17 PM): it would be so funn
My boyfriend (10:33:47 PM): w/e idc
2007-03-01 15:38:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like you need to find another boyfriend because he sounds selfish and pushy don't do anything you don't want to do. My best friend and her man did that with another girl and the jealousy came out and at the end it didn;t end up working out with them because of that little 3some that was suppose to be no big deal and to spice up there sex life. Hope it works out for you!
2007-03-01 15:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by Chandra H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, he wants what he wants and he doesn't care way you want.
First, it has to be BOTH of your fantasy, not just his.
Second, if you have a FMF you don't have to do anything with the girl if you don't want to. The same goes for a MFM, he doesn't have to do anything with the other guy. Obviously he wants the FMF so that he is the center of attention and feels like a king. So both you and the other woman would be focusing on him, not each other. The same goes for a MFM where you'd be the center of attention.
In both circumstances though, everyone has to be comfortable being in a sexual situation with someone of the same gender even though you aren't having sex with them. 1) Because there is bound to be some touching or bumping during the fun, and 2) because you will be naked with them. If the idea is not appealing to you or him, then it would again be a "no go".
Third, swinging (and yes, anytime a committed couple engages in sex with anyone outside their relationship is it technically swinging) is exactly what the word implies: swings go both ways. Basically, for him to expect you to help fulfill his fantasy, he has to be open to helping you fulfill yours, whatever it may be (MFM included). If he is not then you will resent him because he is being selfish and he is getting his fantasies fulfilled but you are not getting yours fulfilled.
I've known several couples that only do FMF threesomes and don't do full swap with other couples or MFM threesomes because the husband/boyfriend is too insecure to either have his wife/girlfriend have sex with another man, or to be naked with another man in the room, or both. In almost every circumstance, after doing this for awhile the wife/girlfriend has gotten resentful because the situation is only working one way.
So, if he really wants such a thing, then he has to realize that's all fair, you get what he gets (even if you decide not to take advantage of it, you should be able to), and, if you're into it right now then he has to respect that and back-off. You may be later, you may never be. He's thrown it out there now and you know, so if you ever do feel you want to then you can let him know you are ready.
2007-03-02 11:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should try a 3some it could turn out to be fun. u can do it like mfm i think he'd like it too.
2007-03-02 16:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by momofthesouth2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he respected you...he'd have never even brought the subject up.
2007-03-01 23:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing that you can do is talk to your friends and even his friends no one knows you guys more than your friends.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-02 00:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by shadowcrow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋