I am a mother of 3 children and I my oldest is 13 year old girl.My husband and I doesn't have any hint that she have already a 16 year old boyfriend. We save and work for her future because she's the oldest and her other brothers are just 4 and 1 year old.My husband and I have many plans for her and we try to be her bestfriend all the time. Until accidentally i read a letter saying happy monthsary.I read her diary and it says there that everytime I get mad at her( because after school she will go to her room and shut the door and will use the cellphone till wee hours) she is planning to elope with her boyfriend. It says there that her boyfriend will pick her up and maybe they will survive because the guy will have partime job for them. We didn't know the guy and how will i talk to my daughter. Will i say that i read her diary. She looks innocent always thats why we didn't have the hint about her plans.Please help...
2007-03-01 15:32:37 · 5 answers · asked by shel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We love our children and do the best we can to guide them in the right direction. You are the parents and know whats right for your daughter, whose running the show and who cares who she likes she has no business with a 16 yr old boy and talking on the phone,after even 9:00 you let her and you can put a stop to it, better hurry up and put your foot down before you loose her completely, dont argue just state the facts, take the phone away and she cant be up late planning escapes, whose paying for it???
Forbid her to talk to and see this boy, keep on reading her diary you are her mother remember, She'll get mad and probably run away .REPORT IT and let her get arrested and sit in Juvi if thats what she chooses , after some reality check she'll straighten up.
She needs to earn the use of that phone and be monitored somehow when and if you return it to her that phone that is her that is how she has access to all the things she should not be doing. What kind of mother would sit back and let their 13 yr old daughter get mixed up with a 16 probably 17 yr old boy????????
No mothers I know!!!!! I'm sorry i dont mean to be so harsh but i am a single mother with a 16 yr old her phone is off at 9 and she is not allowed to date at all, what for???she can go to games mall movies with groups and they meet up there too so im right there to pick them up. This is up to us as parents, and you are the only one to blame if you loose your daughter, she is begging for guidance whose going to give it to her get tough very tough mom and dad, not mad and yelling but stern and stick to it again and again she will soon learn you mean business good luck
2007-03-01 16:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by betsyturminyen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember, You are the parent. Sometimes parents need to do things that might not seem so nice, but are in the best interest of the child. If I had a 13 year old daughter and she was dating a 16 year old boy, I would most definately put my foot down on the subject. A parents responsibility is to take care of a child and help them to make sure they make appropriate decisions in there life. Your 13 year old daughter is talking about running away from home here. You need to talk to her about it. I would also be concerned about a 13 year old dating a 16 year old that her parents haven't even met. You say that you try to be her best friend all of the time. Now you need to be her parent in this situation.
2007-03-01 23:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by reallygoodvibe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only 13. You have control over what she does. You are her parent and guardian and have the responsibility to make sure she does the right thing, even if she is mad at you for reading her diary. Maybe you should speak to family services or something. I think that you need to find out who his guy is and tell him to stay away from your daughter. Call his parents. That is a huge age difference when you're that young. You may have to seek out some kind of program or learn about intervention or something. Whatever it is, remember that you are the parent and she is the child.
2007-03-02 00:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she only 13 so she a young lady, but you need to talk to her
and let her know that you are there for her and that she can
talk to you about anything. and then see if he open up a little
if this boyfriend is 16 then you need to know about him he a little
old to be with her any way so she need to know that.
2007-03-01 23:54:05 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her...if you story is accurate
2007-03-01 23:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by Million C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋