My bf is sooo sweet. We live together, he cooks, cleans, is always supportive of me, but I always find faults in him. I'm always getting mad over the stupidest things! Like today he wanted me to wear jeans and a shirt, I wanted to wear a dress. We had a huge fight, and he ended up apologizing, while I was just being a *****. I'm always making fun of him, abstain from sex to get my way, tell him to shut up when he sings along, etcetc... I need to stop! I hate myself for being so mean, but I just can't help it. I do love him very much...but sometimes I think I just love him, but not actually IN love with him...
2007-03-01 15:28:31 · 10 answers · asked by yurika 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To me it sounds like something else is really bothering you other then him all the time and you take it out on him. It was happening to me and I realized that I was really unhappy about my wieght and I went on a diet and lost 63lbs so far and I am much happier now and we have a wonderful relationship. So dig deeper it might be something that you don't even realize. Hope you find your answer. Good-luck
2007-03-01 15:35:45 · answer #1 · answered by Chandra H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you just need to change your attitude. if you continue to be mean to him, he'll leave you one day. is that the result you want? if the answer is yes, torture him more. if the answer is no, learn to treasure and stop thinking that he'll be there for u forever.
but i think he shouldnt tell u what to wear unless for some good reasons. dun ever let a guy make u wear something he likes everytime. once in a while is fine but not always. little squabbles, teasing are fine for a relationship cos these make it more interesting. but dun ever turn to violence.
i feel that u are not sure about ur feelings towards him. you need to work this out urself before coming to a decision. but if u dun learn to love urself, u cant possibly love anyone else. love urself by saying the things you mean and paying more attention to your actions. acknowledge all that you've done and ask yourself why. be honest with the answers, think whether that is what u really want, make a decision and move on. if u love ur bf, show him that. there is no point saying it a thousand times while all you do is to hurt him.
good luck!
2007-03-01 15:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kudos, at least you can admit it. He's allowing you to walk all over him, you know it and you're taking advantage of the situation. Next time, why not stop and think first, how would I feel if this was turned around and this guy was always attacking MY self esteem. And stop being so damn picky. If he wants to wear jeans then you chose a dress that fits that picture once in awhile. You need to stop expecting it to be all about you. OK, I'm done now.
2007-03-01 15:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by patti duke 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are acting very immature and eventually he is going to get tired of your attitude and leave the relationship. Who wants to put up with that behavior on a daily basis. He will find someone who is going to love him right without the drama and arguments. You need to check yourself, think about your actions and your boyfriends feelings. If you want him to keep on loving you, you got to change your ways especially if you want to marry him. Because who wants to marry a b****, and the next women might just give you a run for your money.
2007-03-01 15:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by attheendofmyrope 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry - i hate bashing people, but you are pretty pathetic. If you don't want to treat him that way, then either grow up - or move on. Sounds like he'll be much better in the long run. He'll probably find someone who appreciates all he does. You do not deserve him.
2007-03-01 15:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by T D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would see a therapist, there must be something about your life or yourself you are not happy with which is making you try to bring you bf down. Best of luck, he sounds like a great guy, do what you can to keep him.
2007-03-01 15:32:24 · answer #6 · answered by Jellybean 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to work at it. it sounds like you have an anger/controlling problem. If I were you, I'd talk to your boyfriend again. Every time you start to get out of line with your anger or controlling-ness, he could bring it up to you. But if you aren't in love with him, perhaps you shouldn't be wasting your time.
2007-03-01 15:33:17 · answer #7 · answered by starsnmoons0101 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
awwwwww poor guy. look at what youre putting him through.just think things through before you say anything really horrible that it'll drive him away because one day he'll decide he had enough of your sh1t and he'll leave and im sure you dont want that because you obviously love him :]
2007-03-01 15:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by fillojeta a 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like what you really need is a less frivolous investment of your time. No offense. Sorry.
2007-03-01 15:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by Think. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you respect him?
2007-03-01 15:31:54 · answer #10 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋