i had my last period at the end of January/beginning of February and about two weeks in me and my boyfriend did it without a condom. i should be starting my period any day now. he didn't come but he precums ALOT. and it was the day he lost his virginity. he's about to turn 18 and I'm getting really worried. i was nauseated this morning. and my hips hurt all day. and i have a low grade fever. i heard a fever is a symptom. I'm not old enough to get a job so i cant afford to buy a pregnancy test and my boyfriend lives too far away to buy one for me. and i cant go to the school clinic to get a test because they would tell my mom if i was pregnant. do you think i could be pregnant. and how would i know if i was?
2007-03-01 14:51:48 · 11 answers · asked by Lauren-g-rizzle 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You NEED to tell your parents. You are only 15. Complications are greater with young age. I also got pregnant at 15. It was no picnic telling my parents but I'm still alive and my son is 12 years old. I'm sure your parents love you and they would want to know if there was a problem with their child. Good Luck!!!
2007-03-01 15:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by momof3 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
sweet pea, I don't think the school clinic can or will tell your mom, unless you're in a very small town...
but you have a couple options.
1. If you have a dollar store in town, the pregnancy tests only cost 1 dollar. You have to wait until your period is actually due, or preferably a day or two late.
2. find out if there's a crisis pregnancy center in your town. they'll keep things confidential. Here's the deal: these places generally are pro-life places so they will certainly try to talk you into either keeping the baby or putting it up for adoption, and try hard to talk you out of the idea of abortion.
3. Listen, 15 isn't a kid, but you don't really have all the answers yet (well you never will, no one does), and you need to find some advocates who will be on your side. If that's not your mom (are you sure your mom won't be helpful to you?) then find a friend's mom, a pastor, a teacher, school counselor, etc who can give you realistic advice.
Anytime you have sex you "could" be pregnant. In typical use, condoms have a big failure rate. (they're effective if used correctly, but most young people don't) so as unreasonable as this might sound, you probably should hold off on having intercourse until you're in the situation where you could actually handle being a parent (and preferably one with a husband...)
My last bit of advice is this: don't let anyone force you into anything, including your mother. You and your (maybe) baby have to live with the consequences of whatever you decide for the rest of your life. Don't let your teenage friends make your decision for you either. Think hard and pray hard.
I will tell you I know 2 girls who gave their baby up for adoption, and both are totally convinced they made the right decision, although it was horribly difficult for them, they believed it was the most loving thing they could do, and they felt like they had some chance at a future.
I know quite a few girls that have kept their baby (my grandmother for example kept my dad) If they had family support, that's been both a blessing and a huge sacrifice at the same time. If not, while they love their babies, they are really struggling to make it....and since you're not old enough to make money and still haven't finished H.S. yet, it would be a tough road for you.
I also know 3 girls who had abortions. 1 because her dad "made her" the other two by choice. Actually, I shouldn't call them girls, because they're in their 30s now...but all of them still feel very very guilty. They made the choice they thought was for the best at the time, but 1 has children now, and thinks of the baby she aborted every time she looks at her little girls, and wonders what her oldest would be like. The second one had fertility problems later (probably unrelated), but she felt like she deserved it, and that God hated her (not true, by the way), and told me that every mother's day she feels awful. The third has never married or had children...but she told me she wishes she could take it back.
All I'm saying is: I hope for your sake, you're not pregnant...but if you are, do your best to take full responsibility for the life you created with your boyfriend. And if you're not pregnant, please please please don't take these kind of risks with your life, your boyfriend's life and your baby's life....
email me anytime if you need a friend/confidante...That's the end of my lecturing, I promise. Good luck...
by the way, unless your mom is an abusive parent, she really is going to be someone who can help you...tell her if she won't beat you up...
2007-03-01 15:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by singingsoprano 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know what, I hope to hell you are pregnant maybe next time it will teach you to use a dam CONDOM!!!!!!!!!You little kids never learn, why the hell would you be sleeping around at 15? Don't you have any morals?
Not to mention your so called " boyfriend" that is 18 is probably just using you for SEX and i can almost guarantee it, if you found out you were pregnant he would bounce and leave you alone to raise that kid. Then who would you depend on? your mommy? You said it yourself your too young to even get a job, shyt you can't even afford a pregnancy test how could you afford a baby? Diapers, clothes, food, medical visits, day care ect.
Also keep in mind your putting yourself at very high risk to contract HIV, AIDS, STDs....
You need to tell your parents right away. so they can see what a dirty girl you are and put you on Birth Control...
WE DON'T NEED ANYMORE BABIES HAVING BABIES!!!!!!!!
2007-03-02 04:02:43 · answer #3 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he was a virgin, how would you knew that he precumms a lot?
ok, now to serious stuff...if you had unprotected sex 2 weeks after your period and he ejaculated into your vagina (or at least precummed) then you stand a very good chance of being pregnant IF your periods are 28 days and regular...
go to the health department or planned parent hood and they will provide you an HPT for you to pee on. If it is +, then they will help you to make all of the arrangements on being a new mother...THEY WILL NOT TELL YOUR PARENTS, EITHER! Also asked to be checked for hepatitis, HIV, herpes, gonorrhea, chlamydia and all of the other STD's that you could have been exposed to...
good luck
2007-03-01 17:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay. heres the deal. ask your parents for a few dollars. pregnancy tests dont usually cost that much. and if you ARE actually pregnant. i suggest you tell your parents as soon as possible.
i know i'd never have the balls to tell them, but realize that they love you & they're probably disappointed, but they just want what's best for you. they'll always be there to help, and you know it for a fact.
Come up with something like,
"Mom, i know i messed up. And i totally regret what i did.. and now i'm pregnant.. and i know you're problly reaallly disappointed.. but this is a time where i need you the most and you have to help me. "
i'm very sure she won't just yell at you and kick you out of the house.
goood luck!
2007-03-02 10:19:39 · answer #5 · answered by melina g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fever is not a symptom of pregnancy, it's a symptom of infection, and with pelvic pain and nausea you need to see a doctor ASAP
try the health dept for a check-up
get on the pill or other birth control while you are there, have the boyfriend pay for it!
2007-03-03 20:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by 3agirls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Post a PayPal account and let people know of your dilemma (if you have a blog that would be a good way to do it, here would also be a good place). I'd bet that someone will spot you the $15 to find out.
2007-03-05 09:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by Ranavain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 23:26:13 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way is 2 go 2 a doctor and checked up ..... but as u said u cannot afford it ..... there is no other sure way to know if u r pregnant or not ..... can't help over here
2007-03-01 14:59:51 · answer #9 · answered by mike m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONEY I KNOW IT'S A SCARY THING TO THINK ABOUT BUT THE BEST THING YOU COULD DO FOR YOURSELF AND FOR THE POSSIBLE BABY IS TO TELL YOUR PARENTS SO THAT YOU CAN FIND OUT ONE WAY OR THE OTHER. THE EARLIER THAT YOU FIND OUT THE MORE CHOICES YOU FIND WHITHER TO HAVE THE BABY AND KEEP IT OR TO GIVE THE BABY UP FOR ADOPTION OR YOU COULD HAVE AN ABORTION. I PERSONALLY DON'T BELIEVE IN THEM BUT IT IS AN OPTION FOR YOU BUT YOU NEED TO FIND OUT FOR SURE FIRST.
2007-03-01 15:17:15 · answer #10 · answered by hanna_726 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋