My husband works full time and by the end of the week is moody and miserable. Usually I can handle it, but I am 38 weeks pregnant, I am getting sore and tired and grumpy too, and I dont think he is really being fair on me, like I will ask him once to empty the kitty litter, coz I cant, and then will ask him again 4 hours later coz it smells, and he tells me that i am always whinging at him, and storms out. I cant cope anymore, what can I do to calm him down
2007-03-01 14:50:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like your hubby is stressed. I would talk to him about this and also let him know how you are feeling! Maybe he's having a bit of anxiety about the new arrival that he just hasn't been able to talk about. Open some doors for him and invite him to spill his guts to you. Not only will this help, but you will both feel better and come to a realization of why you are truly together....because you trust each other. Hope this helps!!
2007-03-01 15:22:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest asking only one time. If it is something you really can't do, then I'm afraid you'll just have to wait for someone else to do it, even though it smells bad. However, I'm guessing this goes beyond the cat box. When it comes to a partnership, everyone wants to feel they're being appreciated. I speak from experience when I tell you: when I showed my husband how much I appreciated him going to a miserable job all week to support his family, he was much sweeter and more open to helping me when I asked for it.
Don't get too discouraged, though. Life will have a whole new set of challenges in a couple weeks. Good luck with the new baby!
2007-03-02 00:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by mhlsister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just upset because he feels you are nagging and bugging him . No this is not excuse for him to be this way though. You even said you are grumpy too. Stick it out and have your baby and who knows things might be better after the baby is born and seek marriage counseling and help for you and for your marriage. Your husband may also need anger management classes and he also may have a medical problem or disorder that may be causing this as well. Have him see a doctor for stress and maybe even depression if need be. He may need to be put on medication to calm down at times if he has a disorder or medical problem. He may even have a chemical imbalance. Good luck and congratulations on the upcoming baby. I sure hope things get better for you and your husband and marriage soon so that this baby will grow up in a stable invironment with parents who love each other. Hugs to you today.
2007-03-01 23:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell the dude that putting in 40 hours on the job is just the beginning. There are 128 other hours in his week that need to be addressed. Meaning get off your hump and help your pregnant wife.
What is he going to do when baby arrives? You never sleep, it is stressful as hell but you cant say that out loud because you have to be loving to baby. Competitions over who got up last, who gave Jr. a bottle, who changed diaper are going to stress both of you out. You had better train him early on being a helpful father.
BTW, tell the cat to pack its bags. Not fond of cats, sorry.
2007-03-01 23:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't think women work when at home. They need to try it and then understand. The kitty litter thing is outrageous, with the health problem he needs to wake up, He need to wake up about a lot of things, Keep telling him, let him call you a whiner, but demand it gets done. I can't imagine what he will do when your child comes, he should be ready to take on a lot of chores for you unless he is able to breastfeed the baby.
If he doesn't change, and if you have the option, move out and stay with your family. Good luck
2007-03-01 23:22:16 · answer #5 · answered by Nort 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tell him to grow up and be a man...
I'm 38 and have 2 kids and when the wife was pregnant I would work my 40 hours plus I would not let her doing any heavy lifting not even pick up a 5lbs bag of potatoes...I even would fix supper and do some house cleaning..so she would not hurt her self..
I was very protective of her...Sounds like he is not being far to you..a real man takes care of his wife and helps her out..not whine and complain like an old lady...or a little kid.
2007-03-01 23:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps you should consider giving the cat away. You'll have more than enough to consider besides a cat, once your baby arrives.
2007-03-01 23:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girl! you should not be cleaning the cats litter box while preganut. I forget what it is but remember while pregnat you should not do it...do a search and show him. It does somethig to the baby.
2007-03-01 23:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by jeeccentricx2 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Just ask him once. He has worked all week. Let him relax at lease one day. If he has changed it by Sunday,remind him.
2007-03-01 23:22:42 · answer #9 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pack up and leave. Maybe he would of thought twice about being a real man/husband. You dont need to find a way to comfort him, hell he needs to be finding a way to comfort you. Your the one pregnant. Duah. You dont need to kiss his ***. He needs to understand, you are going to whine, fuss, all that. YOUR PREGNANT. He is not the one pregnant. hell we all work and we all are tired, but that gives him no excuse to come home and not take care of business with his family. Pack up and go. Maybe he'll realize then, what he shoulda coulda woulda
2007-03-01 23:03:40 · answer #10 · answered by BE HAPPY! 4 · 0⤊ 5⤋