He's married, and I'm in love with someone else. It probably will never work except inside my head. He's over 20 years older than me. Should I quit my job to avoid sleeping with him? I don't know if I can control myself and I could get sued!
2007-03-01 14:37:11 · 7 answers · asked by supergirl789 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
What you should do is seek therapist help or a friend and ask them to help you with this issue. I know that if you have an image in your mind, then you would most likely act upon it, so if you imagine your boss ugly, then you could think that you don't have any feelings towards him and then problem solved.
2007-03-01 14:58:05 · answer #1 · answered by ralph2god 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a grip and just do the job you're being paid for or change jobs if you can't do that. Fooling around with a married man and your boss no less, is treading on dangerous ground. Also, think about what it would do to the person you supposedly are in love with. Use your head girl.
2007-03-01 22:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. Listen, it's exactly as you said: "all in the head." I wasted a lot of time (years) trying to figure out the same thing you are now. In the end, I decided to play it out in my head. took it as far as it could go; Best and worst case scenarios then- I let go.
Think about this woman he married and how much that would hurt her. Don't be so selfish about her but be MORE selfish with yourself. You deserve more and I bet your worked hard to get where you are in your job. Don't ever give that up.
Don't waste your time. It will NEVER work out the way you want it too - fantasies are nice but sure take a lot of your precious energy.
So if you are truly in love with your boyfriend as you said you'd be giving him kisses, growing your relationship instead of asking about this now would you?
2007-03-01 22:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man is 20 years older than you, and married. You are an employee of his, and you're thinking about sleeping with him. If you cannot help but think about him, transfer... or get another job. This isn't going to help your career if you are only thinking about the man.. I am sorry, but this is kind of wrong... So, just think of how it will just not work (even though it may hurt you), but later on you will think " I can't believe I was ever into that man."
2007-03-01 22:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one: Grow up. Remember and intern and President Clinton. (It made her a laughing stock). You will surely be fired since it's always the woman who gets the boot.
Number two: Why would he want someone 20 years younger and as vunerable as you? There's only one answer.
2007-03-04 13:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by solotrovo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh grow up. if you have a fantasy keep it there.
you said, "i don't know if i can controul myself"
good grief what are you a dog in heat. of course you can controul yourself!!!
keep your pants on and your mouth shut and you will be just fine!
2007-03-01 22:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by KRIS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah dont go for it, youll regret it in a huge way guaranteed.
2007-03-01 22:44:32 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋