My boyfriend and I havent had sex in 2 weeks.......and its literally driving me crazy. I know we're both busy people, but I cant handle it anymore. He is coming home from doing his residency from the hospital in 30 minutes....what can I do so I can get pleasured tonight?
2007-03-01 14:23:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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Also, just took a look at some of your recent questions. According to those you guys have been fighting, etc. Trust me, with the stress you and especially he is under, how in the world would he want to come home to more stress with you and want to have sex? I was assuming a happy relationship with my post- but in your case from what I've read, this may not be the right time for you guys. But I guarantee there is no future with you being a source of stress combined with his working lifestyle as a resident. Especially since he's an intern or in year 2- ha! No way. That poor guy is getting **** all day from his superiors. The last thing he needs is you accusing him of cheating etc. Poor guy needs a break! If you want to salvage the relationship and have him be attracted to you, then be more understanding. Med school is a cake walk next to residency.., and his lifestyle wont be changing for at least a couple more years....
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Welcome to the life of dating a resident. Mine works 80+ hours a week and comes home from the ER so pale and exhausted from no sleep or food that I feel to bad to bug him. It's a give and take. His residency won't last forever. I just look forward to when we have a weekend off (which is rare) or if we get a vacation- then in no time he's back to normal and the sex is great. =)
When I have a hard time dealing with it I just go to the hospital (as long as he's not operating at that time). I see how drained he is there. I take him a bite to eat. We sit for no more than 5 minutes before his pager goes off with something horrible. Yesterday he sits down, begins telling me about how a patient just died and he did everything he could to save the guy, but he had to tell his family that he didn't make it. I listened. Gave him some donuts that I bought for him. Before he could take even one bite he gets a call for a trauma. A 17 year old kid shot in the head. I tell him I'll come back. I drive back 6 hours later when he finishes operating and he tells me how he's trying to convince the parents to agree to make the kid an organ donor because he's completely brain dead. Needless to say, 10 minutes later he gets called in again. Another trauma.
So now, I don't know what kind of resident your boyfriend is in. But if it's anything like my man's day then he's going to work at 4 am and getting off 30 something hours later with no sleep. How can I look at his drained face walking through the door and expect him to be in the mood for sex?
Don't get me wrong- we dont only have sex on vacation! But try to understand that he may be in a really hard rotation. I know my man is attracted to me- it's obvious. But being attracted and having the desire for sex are two different things. As long as he makes you feel beautiful and gives you all he can when he's able (or when he does get horney despite being tired) then he's giving you as much as he can.
I guess the most important thing is just realizing that residents are tired when they get home, on their feet all day, and breaking stressful news often times. Make sure you just talk to him and tell him how you feel. I used to go crazy too until we were living together and I could really appreciate how much and how hard he works! What helped us was that I explained I was going crazy and he really really cared. Just knowing he cared made all the difference. Suddenly I didn't need the constant attention anymore because I knew he would give it to me to make me happy. Once I had that then it was more important to me to take care of him and wait for that one night a week where he may get off a little early, take a nap, and wake up recharged and ready to give me real sex- not forced sex- but sex because he wanted it and more importantly his body was rested enough to want it as well!
Good luck! Please just talk to him and be understanding! If you don't nag and try to understand a man by talking things out, then they really try to understand you and your needs as well. It's only nagging that causes them to tune out. So talk to him honestly before you get so frustrated that you have no choice but to snap in pure desperation! Again, good luck!
2007-03-02 17:44:01 · answer #1 · answered by Coco Jingle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If two weeks is a long time for you, you don't need to get married, I have gone 2 months or more.
2007-03-01 14:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG usually it is the man that complain about that n e way i think one day when he gets home from work just set a romantic candle lighted dinner and put on some lungeray and let him have it
2007-03-01 14:37:49 · answer #3 · answered by deyaunna 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
When he comes home be dressed in what ever he likes to see you in and help him unwind from a long day. Hopfully he will respond the way you need him to.
2007-03-01 14:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by slow thinker 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to keep your boyfriend, then don't go to anyone else. Yank down his pants and just go for it. Guys love that. If he don't then you ain't got a man. Otherwise sounds like you have to go take care of stuff on your own.
2007-03-01 14:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
WOW THAT SOUNDS HORRiBLE BUT HMM...iF HE DONT HAVE TiME TO PLEASURE YOU WHY DONT YOU JUST TELL HiM? LET HiM KNOW YOU MiSS HiM AND THE SEX? iF NOT THEN JUST USE A TOY OR SOMETHiNG
2007-03-01 14:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by honeyy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
r u for real? 2 weeks and u are dying? come on. people in iraq are dying!!!!
2007-03-01 14:56:50 · answer #7 · answered by braille 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait in the nude for him and jump him when he comes home. That's option one. Option two is just say screw it and take care of it yourself.
2007-03-01 14:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
U r in that receptive mood already.
2007-03-01 15:43:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Masturbate =]
Or put on some sexy VS and he'll get the idea ;-)
Good luck :-D
2007-03-01 14:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋