I run into these women all the time, they must be insecure or something, and I must eb a doormat. We forge a friendship and then they are talking about how terrible their life is and how they need me to rescue them and the next thing I know they are walking all over me, well as Dr. Phil says, you teach people how to treat you. But anyways, why can't I just have a normal friendship with a women, instead of me, being their Mother, or their babysitter, or playing the husband role in what seems to be a gay-nonsexual relationship with another women. I mean I can't believe they can't take care of themselves and expect me to do it for them, when I am depressed and OCD.
2007-03-01 14:13:09 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
We will try to correct our childhood emotional problems in our relationships as adults. Maybe there is someone that you need to forgive or let go of that you couldn't change or help as a child. I only speak out of my own experience!
2007-03-01 14:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by bettysmailbox3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any female friends. All my friends are male, and I've never known why. Maybe it is for the same reason. Men tend to only talk about their problems when they really need advice, and when it is something important. I'm not saying men bottle up their feelings, I know men who are very open emotionally, they just don't get upset over the slightest misunderstanding. I am this way also, and I guess this is why I get along with them better. I don't like drama. I love helping people, and have a strong empathy toward all people, but I only want to help you if you really want help, not if you just enjoy drama.
2007-03-01 22:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsey H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be a friend has just been over rated all these years the behavioral sciences now call them who do this a form of loser created by being a rescuer, because who they rescue seldom if ever understand how they got fixed or what they could do back in appreciation before they start it all over again on someone else
2007-03-01 22:20:00 · answer #3 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This IS friendship, babe.
But you need to get your needs met from THEM.
It's a barter, that's all.
Go for it!
2007-03-01 22:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋