What is a good communication tool for marriage?

Answer 1

I'm getting married in March and just went on an Engagement Encounter. They have Marriage Encounters, too. We wrote each other letters throughout the weekend and that was a great tool. We were able to get our feelings out without being distracted or interrupted, and the other person could read the letter over and over so they could fully understand what it said. We continue to use this tool even now.

Answer 2

Not to change your words, but, here's my list for "RULES" For Good Communication in a Marriage.

1. Never go to bed angry if there is an issue that needs addressed. Even if you have to talk it out til' 3:00 a.m., solve the problem.

2. Have a special word that you both use if either of you is so angry or frustrated that a "Time-Out" is needed. You can use the word "Hopscotch" or any you both can make up. This communicates to the other that you need to step away and cool down and you will talk later.

3. Never try to talk out problems at the most inopportune time. Never with company, or family or kids around. Not while one is getting ready for an appointment. Never try to talk out a problem with time constraints. You both need to communicate without any outside pressure dictating time, availability, or anything pushing the issue for a quick fix.

4. Talk out issues as they happen. Don't let a problem that happened on Monday fester all the way until Friday. Put out the fire before it becomes an inferno later.

5. A good tool and fun way to talk things out is using a talking ball. It could be a tennis ball, or something like it like a Nerf ball. The person with the ball speaks, and the other listens. When one person is done talking on a point, toss the ball to your mate, and let them talk while you listen. It teaches great patience and also enhances listening.

6. Most all of us that are, were, married, or when we first meet, we spend many nights late into the night talking and enjoying the togetherness very much. It's very enriching. However; many people abandon this once they move forward into marriage. It's good to revisit these times and use them in a marriage, when talking and sharing meant so much, and it is one thing too many people let go dormant in their marriage.

7. Never try to argue or solve problems over the phone. The importance of being together and having face-to-face encounters is important. Plus neither should ever allow the other to leave angry to go drive, whether to work, a grocery store or whatever. No one should be upset behind the wheel of a car, and it would crush us if an argument led to our loved one getting into an accident.

8. It's always good to be rested when you have a good sit down and talk with the exception of #1. It's good to have a clear head, and that both are committed to sitting and communicating. Both should agree to be totally focused and make time for each other to talk, and not while one is washing a car, or one cooking, or anything else. Never try to have a good communication session with the T.V. blaring and distracting. Some smooth jazz makes a nice backdrop for an enriching conversation.

9. Always get all the cards on the table so you both can work for absolute harmony. Of course communication doesn't always have to be about problems or issues that need talked out to resolve an argument, disagreement, or other problem. These sessions are just as important for all good things even if it's talking about redecorating a room together or planning a weekend getaway.

10. Always reward yourselves with a pat on the back of some type for communicating well. A symbol and reward for taking care of your relationship.

A romantic lunch, or nice drive together and some good "together time" would be the Cherry on the proverbial cake. Always be willing to acknowledge that you both are embracing loving each other and always recognize that communication is the gateway to all good things in a marriage.

Answer 3

May I suggest you read the book "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. It helps you understand the best ways to communicate love to your spouse the way they most want to receive it. In the process you learn the same about yourself (and others you love.) If both spouses read it, it really opens up some amazing communication and lays a great foundation for the future.
http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/

Answer 4

You have to be able to talk tp each other about everything. If you can do that you shouldn't have very many obstacles to overcome. If you are open with each other, you will be able to trust each other and things should be fine. These are the two most important things in a marriage as far aas I'm concerned. They lead a quick path to destruction if you don't have them.

Answer 5

If you're looking for a remedy to a lack of communication, try role reversal............ and when you both see each other sitting there with nothing to say, you'll both see how stupid the other one looks. lol

OK, really.............Try talking more about what interest your spouse instead of yourself. Most times people like to be heard rather than do the listening. If your spouse is just not a good talker try asking them to help you solve problems, then ask them to explain how they did it. If you can't generate a conversation from that...................then maybe you're the problem.lol (sorry, that slipped)

When you said "I Do" you opted to be the teacher as well as the spouse, so teach them how to communicate.

Answer 6

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It is a typical enough story: one partner leaves, the other stays. One remains 'in love', the other is uncertain. Whatever it is that has caused a couple to be apart, the one person who remains bears the prospect, fear, doubt, desire, hope of saving his or her marriage' alone.

Answer 7

RESPECT... for each other. Use that towards each other concerning your feelings, bringing up issues and working to solve any problems that come up during your marriage. So many people lose this or never had it for each other in the first place. Always have respect for the other person's feelings...be empathetic and attentive to the relationship.

Answer 8

Food. Learn to cook together. Exercise, do something outdoors together. Learn a hobby, or a business together, something requiring a special jargon, that you can share. Rack up hours learning something together. Increase your personal history. Otherwise, it's money. He should leave a 50 on the pillow. You buy him something with it. Like something you look good in. Best.

Answer 9

Try writing. Often time it's too difficult trying to communicate feelings orally. Try writing a letter to your partner indicating how you feel. Your partner will have more time to absorb how you are truly feeling by your words. After all, with a letter you can go over a paragraph several times to get the point. In a conversation we say so much to each other, that the main point is lost in translation.
Good Luck.

Answer 10

your mouth is an excellent tool, just make sure that the truth comes out of it and it gets used