He had a girl that stayed a hour away and I had a dude in the military.We worked 2gether and started falling in love.We ended our relationship with our other halves and ended up 2gether.It's been 2 years and we are good 2gether.He asked me 2 marry him,but he doesn't trust me.I go to college full time and work ten to twelve hours a day and raising a teenager.I don't have time to cheat,but he's alwys throwing out little cracks about me having someone else.I've told him severals times that this gets on my nerves.What is the best way to handle this?If he keeps pushing this then i will start looking for someone else.
2007-03-01 13:51:22 · 19 answers · asked by Lil' Sexy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Easiest way is to just have your boyfriend tell him~~
2007-03-01 13:56:03 · answer #1 · answered by wild1 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Because the relationship began while you two were involved with others, there is some uncertainty there. In essence, the two of you "traded up" to be together. He might be wondering if that could happen again and he might be the dumped dude this time. The trust issue needs to be resolved for a lasting relationship to happen. If you are committed and love each other then this is something that should be able to be resolved.
2007-03-01 14:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by ozzman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure this happens a lot when people get together like you two did. The thing is it's like Dr. Phil always says on his show, "the best indicator of future behavior is past behavior." Do you completely trust him? You have to decide, it's your life it may mean that you always have to the extra mile to reassure him. He is afraid you will leave him for someone else. You may just want to cut your losses and start over with someone else someday. Do not get together with the next one like this. We live and learn.
2007-03-01 14:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by phylobri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First tell him that his insecurities hurt you. Tell him that you value honest in your relationship and that he would be the first person told if you were thinking about pulling out of the relationship and starting a relationship with somebody else. If you believe in the importance of remaining faithful you should explain to him and both promise to talk before straying. His insecurities will eventually die down.
Problem is his low self image rather than anything else. He does not believe that anybody could possibly love him and want to stay faithful because he does not consider himself good enough.
2007-03-01 14:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by John B 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should never be involved with a man who doesn't trust you. This is the kind of situation that will only escalate until it becomes completely out of control so the two of you need to work this out once and for all or quickly end this tormented relationship.
2007-03-01 13:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was always told if your being accused, the other person is usually doing it. Whether that's true or not I don't know, but you have to decide how long you can deal with it. If you care about him, let him know you don't know how long you can take the accusations, then go from there. Set yourself a time line & stick with it.... things don't change... move on, you don't need the headache. good luck!!!!
p.s. LIFE IS TOOOOOO SHORT!!!!
2007-03-01 14:05:00 · answer #6 · answered by texas tornado 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he just joking, or is he serious? My husband and I joke around sometimes, like when I call him to tell him I'm heading home from work I might tell him to make sure and get his other g/f out of the house - and he might say something like this to me, but we're just kidding; we don't serously mean it of course.
Either way, I think if you have talked to him about it, and asked him to not make such comments - and he's still doing it - it is disrespectful of him, to say the least. I don't know of a way to inform someone of something other than just telling them that. I dunno, unless you feel he has some real issues, I would try and ignore it; it seems like a clumsy joke to me.
2007-03-01 14:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl i think all men think like that...my husband still says things like that...just make it a joke and go on...we have been married for 32 years and a week does not go by that he does not say something about ...my boyfriend...which i do not have...or every had since we been married...so i started making jokes about his girlfriend...so we are even...and no harm do...he does not have a girlfriend either and never has since our marrage.
Do not let it bother you...just a joke ...so treat it that way.
2007-03-01 14:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by jeeccentricx2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there is not trust in your relationship. Girl, if he is accusing you of having someone else it's cause he is feeling guilty about something and cheating himself. My husband did the same thing to me everytime he was cheating.
If there isn't trust ...your relationship will never work...good luck.
2007-03-01 14:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by latinabeauty29 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let him know how much you love him, but the cracks bother you, and your not going to get married until you know for sure he trust you. If he loves you enough he will stop. or he want get married.
2007-03-01 14:02:41 · answer #10 · answered by kesha f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the best way is if ur only into him and let him no how u feel inside tell him therez no other love like him be really sweet and dont seem intrested in other hotties even though they fly
2007-03-01 13:56:04 · answer #11 · answered by Andrea D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋