Is it hard to forgive someone you love and appreciated the most?

Question

He took you to the heights of your friendship. Reaching its peak, he suddenly let go of your hands, and just watched you fall. You fall in to the ground thinking what have you made wrong which made him to just drop you like a hot potato. He put you in a place and left you while he wonder into some unknown places for a long time. When he comes back, he expects you to be at the same place where he left you, and then wonders-off again. And now, he blames you for all the reason why you have your doubts now in your friendship.

Im not gay bev. I use "he" because its a universal pronoun like "him and his". thats to your knowledge BEV!

He later called me "too paranoid" when i started to care and ask him if there is something wrong.

Answer 1

There is a lesson in nature about birds like eagles or rock gulls I think. Where the young have been in their nests and have grown wings to fly. So what do the adults do? They have the awful instinct to push them out of the nest and make them fall to the ground to their death. And the only thing they have to survive is their wings. To flap their wings and to fly.

You as a human being are much wiser than a bunch of birds in nature. Yet that too is what we must do. Whatever growth we have learned from our friendship is what we take from it. That's the best way to face separation from a friend who for no explanation has done that to you. I must do it. Everyone must do it. You must do it.

Today he has doubts about your friendship as you doubt his. It's better to see how you've grown in separation so that the doubt will turn into gratitude.

Answer 2

When it comes to problems in a relationship between two people (be it friendship, or in a dating sense), both parties are equally responsible. One person may have caused it, however it takes the other to bring it to their attention and work together to fix it. If you're both going around blaming each other for problems, I would think that you two either should sort this out or find other friends.

Then again, he may be right, you may be the reason why you're doubting your friendship. Some people just live to seek out problems. However, we aren't to know what type of person you are just by post.

Answer 3

I think that is how it works, that the more you love, the greater the potential for hurt and grudges. If some stranger cuts you off on the highway, you might cuss at them a bit and then let it go. They were just a jerk and you didn't expect anything from them. But when it is a very dear friend who insults, betrays, or abandons you, it hurts much more. So yes, I think it is harder to forgive a dear friend who hurt you than it is to forgive a stranger or an enemy.

Answer 4

Wow! You should Be an Author! You're really flamboyant with your words.
In laymans terms; Who loves who? Do you love him or does he love you?
It can't be that you love each other, because you wouldn't have to have written this question.
So.....I think he doesn't own up to his mistakes and has a way of making others think it's their fault, not his.
You're way better off to find someone who'll never let you fall.
With your clever mind and sweet temperment, It won't be hard too do, if you make up your mind to do so.

Answer 5

I'm not gay so it is just another personal thing, we all have to let go when it is over, sometimes there are nasty feeling but there were good moments too so remember the good and move on it will not help to struggle with these questions that are annoying

Answer 6

i will punch him and curse him if that happen to me.although we love care and appreciated someone doesnt mean that we will except all thing that happen to me. the more we love someone the higher the expactation we will put on him. so its hard to forgive one that we care about, doing a really bad thing to us. but still it depends to whom.

Answer 7

Well, since so many people abused my trust, I wouldn't trust him.