I borrowed him money 2 years ago, over $4,000. He said over time he would pay it off, he payed it down maybe $200 per year. Finally today he had $3300 to pay me off, he said let me buy a car first and you can have the rest. My credit score dropped 100 points from helping him, and now he wanted to put himself first again, after I helped him 1000 times when his family would not. I told him, you pay off the debt you owe me, or I want you out of my life....he never has cash on him, I opened a business for us, and he stole from that, and I was always good to him. I did the right thing right?? I mean, I own 3 homes, 2 cars and a business, he has nothing. He was just bringing me down. What I did was right, right? I am 28, he is 23
2007-03-01 13:27:10 · 7 answers · asked by Tracy L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he was using u and now that he sees your on to him he is out of there, and will never pay u. its his morals and character. guess u have to know a person really good before u part with your money. he is selfish and has o morals. he was in it for what he could get off u, live and learn here. don't lend any more of your hard earned money to parasites. he is immature and self serving. he probably will not come back and be a real man and repay the debt. you need to quit having such a big heart, if you see someone in need and without don't rescue them, or u will have to do that for as long as the relationship lasts. your hurting yourself by helping him. he is the one responsible for his own debt and problems not u.
2007-03-01 13:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult question, because there are a couple of layers to it, and whichever is most important to you will bring you the answer you need.
First you have to put your feelings, did you really love him? If he's the love of your life and you can accept him for his faults, then it was right of you to cut him so much slack. If this is the case, it's also important that he feels the same way, but from what you've said, it sounds like he was taking advantage of you, which is definitely not ok.
On the other hand, it's important to think about your needs. You've earned the things that you have (3 homes, 2 cars, and a business.) and you were willing to share this with him, perhaps too willing! If he's taking away from you instead of adding to you, as a person both emotionally, physically and financially, then he's probably not right for you.
So if your heart points toward him, and your pocketbook points away, decide which one is more important to you, then your choice should be easier.
2007-03-01 13:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by xd_drd77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you, you broke up with him today, but it will be years before you get back what you lost, financially, let alone emotionally. At 28, you should be smarter than that, but guess what, you are now, bet you don't ever let that happen again!
2007-03-01 13:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is using you for your money you have, while you are successful and he isn't, he sure is taking advantage of your kindness to him.
STOP. don't give him anymore, the more you give it to him the more he will ask for.
things will just continue on a downward spiral if you continue to help him. and NO paying back from him.
good luck girl :)
2007-03-01 13:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kath 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only wrong thing you did is that you got involved with such a loser to begin with... Don't know about you, but I can't stand losers. It's just sickening. Please forget about him and find a guy who is responsible, and can fend for himself. It's SO MUCH better.
2007-03-01 13:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing. seems like he is just bringing you down or using you. i would of done the same thing.
2007-03-01 13:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by Peter's_Wifey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in the end it always comes down to money...hes selfish and you got tired of supporting him
2007-03-01 14:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋