Okay, so lately I've been hearing crap directed towards me such as, "You're not that pretty" or "You can't do that because you're not smart enough." I don't see why this is happening just this year, because last year I was everybody's best friend and the go-to girl for great advice. Things have changed. It's like people don't want a thing to do with me, and so my confidence is rapidly going down the drain. I'm getting to the point where I think something is wrong if somebody stares at me for too long. Is there anything I can do myself to regain my confidence to the fullest and also make more friends? <3
2007-03-01 13:19:41 · 7 answers · asked by The Prep 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
And for those who may inquire about this, I'm a girlie-girl, I do wear makeup, and I DO NOT dress like a boy in any way! <3
2007-03-01 13:20:46 · update #1
Your true friends will love you and love being around you even if you give them advice they don't follow or agree with. Friends will decide to not take your advice but will go a mile out of their way not to hurt you or your feelings in any way. I think that you've had your self confidence rattled to the point where you just think someone is staring at you or maybe you're too darn cute not to look at! I think you'll make a lot of new friends. Be patient and hang in there!!
2007-03-01 13:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by clayp72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, there is no such thing as being ugly
I think everyone has their own beauty in some way; therefore, you are a very beautiful person, so don't let someone saying "you're not that pretty" get into your head.
Life isn't about making more friends. Life isn't myspace where you see who has more friends than others.
Life is about maintaining self-confidence and respect even through the most difficult and challenging remarks and comments
You are better than they are. You are smart and beautiful. Although they may not agree, there is at least one person in the world that will say otherwise.
Keep that in mind.
2007-03-01 21:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by lzy8zn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every once in a while, everyone needs a pet in the shoulder, praise in the face. In your case, you probably had it too much and you can't get to the idea of not being praised all the time.
It is more than confidence. It is self esteem issue. You should not take other words (good words) seriously. In your case, you like to hear good words, not the bad ones or criticism. This is normal. That is human behavior. However, in your case, you should not take good things so seriously, same as bad thing.
Otherwise, you will take other words as your purpose of your life. You should be more control on your own. Don't mind others too much or you will not be yourself.
Just be yourself, and take things lightly and your confidence will come back.
2007-03-01 21:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all want to stay attractive to the people who see us as the wonder of the work force, but you did have your moment and others have there day, we share this lime light with out understanding the ways of it, nothing bad has happened it is just that you do get taken for granted after the razzle dazzle is over and glad to fit in and life goes on
2007-03-01 21:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, its their issues and sorry to say, but theyre directing their crap at you.
I would highly reccomend talking to a therapist, s/he might help you to regain your confidence.
2007-03-01 21:28:22 · answer #5 · answered by di12381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't do anything to make them feel different towards you then you shouldn't worry about it.
Remember what Rudyard Kipling said in "IF" (see link below)
2007-03-01 21:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
presume its sheer jealousy and rise above it and them
2007-03-01 21:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by Debbie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋