ok me and my fiance have been together for almost two years now. I am 22 and he is 20. most of his friends think i've brainwashed him into bieng with me...the way they say i've done this is because he moved out of his moms house and got an appartment together. apparently his friends didnt like this to much. he also stopped spending all of his time with them and more of his time with me, they also don't like this.
His brother and his girlfriend hate me because he hasnt visited them in colorado lately (we live in california) and they blame me. reason he doesnt visit is because we've been trying to pay rent,car payments,insurance,food, ect...so he cant afford to go. his brothers girlfriend also hates me because they used to talk all the time (pretty much all she did would cry and complain about his brother) now he rarely talks to her because he's so busy with work,school, and hanging out with me. so it seems everyone is against us being together. do you think i'm in the wrong?
2007-03-01 12:59:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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he does hang out with his friends atleast once a week, they are upset cuz he doesnt hang out with them everyday all day like he used to. he's a grown boy now and has a fiance and a child on the way so he cant "hang with the boys" like he used to. as for family it's not my fault he cant go to colorado all the time anymore, we just cant afford it. right now. and we always see his mom and dad and frequently go on family outings. it's his stupid friends, and his brother and brothers girlfriend
2007-03-01 13:15:37 · update #1
He's being a responsible young man. Hang on to him. If he's a scholar and a future father?? He's doing the right thing. They aren't!!!!!!!! Why can't they come visit? Maybe they are just as poor as you guys are Oh Well!! such is life. He's being responsible and if they can't see that it's their problem not yours. Good Luck..His brothers girlfriend needs to take care of her own problems, sounds like If you weren't in his life, he may well be the same as his bro.
2007-03-01 13:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by carmella.2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wonder what ur fiance thinks? does he feel the same way his family and friends feel? if he does, then u gotta a problem. if he does not then i am glad. it does sound like he is growing up and being a man and doing right by you and your baby on the way. make sure you tell him and show him how much you love and appreciate him and all that he is doing. good luck with you new family and i wish you all the best.
2007-03-01 22:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by braille 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your getting married you have to get used to it. Although we love our families, at times they can make situations worse instead of making them better. This sounds like one of them. Both of you are engaged, you are starting your own family, and this is only the first of many problems to go. It is natural for the friends to be mad, their jealous and hurt that now they have to share him. As long as he is still okay with his parents then stick to making your relationship stronger. Everyone has to deal with the changes. Focus on paying your bills and forget the haters. As for them hating you, hey your gonna be the new one in the family, so it's also natural j/k. Relax, just worry about the two of you.
2007-03-01 23:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by gotstobe06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Untill he starts complaining about the amout of time he gets to spend with family and friends don't worry about it. You are suposed to be the most important person in his life and the baby.It shouldn't matter what they think anyway its you and him not you and them.If I was you I would talk to him and see if he could clear some of it up.
2007-03-01 21:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by trenia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his relationships with his family and friends are important to you, then make it a priority that he get a chance to visit and communicate with them. If they are not important to you then maybe this friends and family were right.
2007-03-01 21:10:25 · answer #5 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not your fault... but make sure he's doing what HE wants...
2007-03-01 21:32:46 · answer #6 · answered by runningballerina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE DOING NOTHING WRONG
2007-03-01 23:05:10 · answer #7 · answered by natasha g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋