My best friend (a male) has been extremely depressed for some time. His marriage is about to end and his wife delights in telling him how worthless he is and she could do better. His father and brother died in the space of a couple of years.
He drinks and smokes marijuana constantly, is currently facing court for drink driving and his third assault against police charge. So he's convinced he's going to jail. He often cuts himself deeply enough that an ambulance has to be called. His main comment is that he's going to die but he hasn't got the guts to do it himself, he's trying to get them to kill him.
I've tried letting him know that I'm here to help him and care about him but he doesn't believe it. I've managed to talk him into seeing doctors on a few occasions. He'll go once and then refuse to go anymore. He has been given antidepressants but won't take them. I worry everyday on how to help him. What can I do when he won't help himself?
2007-03-01 12:57:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can't force help on someone. The only thing you can do is provide information to him...what he does with it is completely in his hands. Be careful not to allow yourself to take on any responsibility for your friend, especially if he is successful at any attempts to harm himself. You can only control your own behavior...not that of another.
2007-03-01 13:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by Michele D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be good to help him out with his minor problems first. Get him to write down what he has done that is against the law and go and see a solicitor. I know it costs money but it is worth it. Maybe if you help him in this aspect he will trust you. When you are in court I would reccommend that he does not speak. Tell his solicitor to say in court that he wishes to attend a drink driving rehabilitation course. Anger management is maybe the next step. I just think you should let him know that he can trust you, get him off the charges with as lenient a penalty as possible and then gradually take steps to make things better. If he did not go to prison it might help him to feel that he is not worthless. He could even go to the drink driving rehab course and it will probably help him
2007-03-02 12:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... antidepressants pills is the worst thing for him... luckily he didn't take it...
He smokes and drinks to forget stuff... you need to tell him that that didn't help but only hurt his own health...
I would think that a small vacation would be nice... like a weekend getaway to a nature... like to the mountain or beach should help...
Did he has any hobby? Or interest? Remind him or take him to do what he like that's healthy...
Don't just tell him... act on it... show him how much you care and also show him life is good... :)
Good Luck
2007-03-01 13:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jo Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its good he has a good friend such as you. it sounds like he has alot on his plate. he needs medical/professional help asap it sounds like you have a done what you can do just be his support and friend and convince him that he needs the help he is the one who will have to cross that bridge himself does he have any family that can baker act him i know this sounds quite aggressive but it just may save his life. another suggestion is call your local crisis center and explain to them what you have explained to us and see if they have some suggestions they are equiped to handle these kind of situations the mental health resource center is another excellent source. be there for him as you have been. good luck and god bless
2007-03-01 13:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her mum and dad, please. i don't comprehend how maximum of the chemical factors she has, in small quantities they're no longer likely to be fatal, yet i comprehend a minimum of a few of them will reason severe soreness, accessible inner bleeding, and different varieties of harm. a number of the others additionally are used to set off vomiting, so it extremely is all maximum in all danger going to return top back up, hurting the two strategies. She desires help, please touch somebody that can get it for her.
2016-11-26 23:14:34 · answer #5 · answered by stuesse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear...you can not help him.....he needs professional help and if he is unwilling to do so then you certainly will not be able to help him.....I strongly suggest...to grab your hat and coat and run as far away from him as possible......it may sound cold but his problems are so deep that you will be the one to suffer in the end.....Leave while the leaving is good.
2007-03-01 13:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by Pearlinpc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have tried to help him every way you can and he still hasn't changed his mind you may need to just leave him to his own and try to support him in what he does. still offer advice as needed but you have done all you can do and now he just needs professional help. you need to think about how this situation is affecting your health.
2007-03-01 13:02:14 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to call 1800-613-9494 and ask for help or if you want to speak directly to a person call 1 325 893 5899 they will be able to help
2007-03-01 13:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by SomeOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to go to treatment,maybe he wont get jail time.
2007-03-01 13:01:47 · answer #9 · answered by evildoer86d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋