my boyfriend works as an analyst which means very crazy hours. he gets to work around 8:30 and on average gets home at 9. some times he doesnt get home until after midnight. he has only been there for 2 months, but last night he kinda had a break down and asked if its all worth the money. his bosses are not nice and will yell at hime if something doesnt go their way. what can i go to make his life a little easier? i want to support him and back him in whatever he wants to do, but we are living on his income because im trying to finish up school. does anyone have any ideas?
2007-03-01 12:37:41 · 11 answers · asked by bar22bie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Of course being a good housekeeper helps, but get him to relax as soon as he comes home.
I don't know if this is what you want to do, but this is probably the best things to help him.
1. Learn about massages; not just rubbing his neck and shoulders. There are some good books on this subject. I have "The Complete book of Massages".
2. Show him why he is doing it. Dress up really pretty for him; not too much, just enough to make him excited. When it's time for bed, wear something silky and sexy; not outrageous. Unlike TV or magazines, us men want our wives/girlfriends to look pretty, not sleazy.
2007-03-01 12:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend needs to find a saner place to work. Until he can (I wouldn't reccomend quitting, It's always best to find a job before you leave a job) He has to do this exercise: Standing in front of a mirror, he has to say " They are insane. I am sane."
Throughout the day he must do this.
He can't let the bosses yelling at him affect his work. He has two choices, he can confront them and say "You hired me to be your Analyst. You didn't hire me to yell at me" and take the risk of losing his job. Or, he can ignore what they do and set boundaries. This can also lead to losing his job.
You can help out too. Find out ways that you can get a part-time job to help out. Finishing school is important, but he probably feels really stressed because he's not just working to support himself, he's working to suppor the both of you.
Also, I think you should talk to him and ask him what's really important to him. Does he hate his job or does he just hate the company. Is he following his dream? Are you following yours? A relationship should be about two people creating the space for each other to follow their dreams.
2007-03-01 12:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by trudi25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In any job it can be quite stressful, deadlines , bosses or other employees freaking out...Welcome to Life* in the working world.
He has 3 options. Sit down and talk with his boss/employer and ask if they feel he's doing a good job. If they say YES he can ask WHY do you need to yell at me all the time??
or he can just continue doing his job, learning...and ask calmly to the person yelling at him, why is it you need to yell i'm right here.
or he can look for another job..and hope it's not the same crazy hours or stress.
GOODLUCK*
2007-03-01 12:43:41 · answer #3 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that you keep up on the housework. I know it seems like such a little thing, but if he is that stressed out, to come home to a clean house with dinner made would probably be the best thing you can do for him.
2007-03-01 12:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by butterflywndr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe the job just isent cut out for him! I mean we all have stress long hours hell I work an avg 12-15 per day,but i'm not gonna go home and conplain about it..............maybe he needs a 9 to 5
2007-03-01 12:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you support him no matter what his decision is. Listen to him. Don't really offer advice (guys usually just want you to listen). Offer to get a part time job to help out with the household expenses. Also, offer to help him find another job if he so chooses to do so.
2007-03-01 12:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by Misty Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl you need to give your man a pampering day. You need to massage him down with oils and yall need to have an intimate night to ease his mind. And i guarantee it will get better for him.
2007-03-01 12:47:29 · answer #7 · answered by Thick-N-Cute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him. when he comes home, have a nice warm bath for him, and massages are always good.
Good Luck, I hope this helps!
2007-03-01 12:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by Honey83 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him, tell him you love him and just listen to him vent, when he is ready to get a different job, he will.
2007-03-01 12:44:54 · answer #9 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to look for another job opening, or you do it for him!
2007-03-01 12:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by chelsmat2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋