What do you do if your like suicidal ?

Question

I dont want to sound like an idiot but if anyone out theres been in a situation like this will you answer me please. right well im 19 and am at the point right now where a dont see myself being able to cope with much more. Im applying for any job i can but i have this thing called "pectus excavatum" (a dent in the chest) and the surgery takes like 3 years for it and even then nobody knows how it will look. This is hanging over my head whatever i do and even if and when i get reffered to the hospital, it could take forever on the nhs. Even after this i might have to get another operation, i see no point in going any further with anything. Im out at the weekends with my friends like everyone else but deep down am on the edge, im so close to taking a handfull of pills its not even funny. How can i start a new job or do anything like this. What do i do b4 i do something i probably shouldnt ? (could we keep it to serious answers please).

Answer 1

You are suffering from depression, with a certain amount of anxiety as well. Very common.
The fact that you are having suicidal thoughts shows only that it is moderate to severe depression.

The medical thing is quite likely not the cause - its often difficult to tell what is.

Get down the doctor and get prescribed some SSRI antidepressants. They take 2 weeks to start to work, and they are normally very effective and with few side-effects.
Then you can start to figure out what is going wrong with your life that is making you feel that way.
Good luck!

Answer 2

I have been suicidal too..still think about it a lot...but try hard to not act and ignore these feelings and have also sought help, many times. I'm not sure if whether your stating it's due to the Petus Excavatum that your feeling so down or not..because it doesn't seem to be stopping you from having a "normal life".. i think its more the pressure, the worry of it and everything building up on you which is making you feel completely mentally exhausted and hopeless...and probably the thought of a new job is also very daunting for you ontop of everything else. Please don't do anything to harm yourself...I know your scared and depressed but think of all the good times you have had and ones you will still have if you live. I know it's really hard to see these at the moment..but it will happen..trust me.
You need to go to see your GP and explain how your feeling, he may be able to perscribe something to make you feel less anxious and maybe get you an appointment with a counsellor, which really can help. I was 19 when i felt the same way as you (im only 20 now) i know how hard it feels to be young and see everyone else feeling like a normal 19 year old when your bogged down with so much pain inside. I also no how scary is it to go see doctors and counsellors. If you have a friend or family member you trust, try and confide in them, they could even o along with you.

If all of this seems too much please even think of ringing the samaritans or emailing them at : [e-mail] (someone will reply usually within 24 hrs) they are not judgemental and have heard it all.

Best of luck, Please seek help, you really do deserve it!

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Answer 3

Question: Why are you not talking about this / these things in the real world?

It would be a pretty good idea to try and establish just what it is that causes you to reach the point you describe, to see 'the thing' that keeps you trapped in this web you have built about yourself..

The 'dent' in your chest, which I've not heard of by name, but I've known people who have had similar problems and worse and have simply been bloody minded enough to say, 'this is me, tough,' and have got on with living.

Personally, I had Polio as a child, can only use one arm, and walk badly: I have a curvature of the spine which creates one leg being shorter than the other, and the stress on my back at times is ....'distressing,' whether walking, sitting or laying down. (it's a right pain in the donkey).

My right arm is what might be described as being 'withered' and I have almost no shoulder (and as a result, shirts etc don't fit me properly ~ or would be expensive to have them tailored) ~ and anyway, I have an 18.5 inch neck which according to shirt makers, means I MUST have a chest of about 50 inches. I have not, so AGAIN, getting shirts etc to fit is a pain which I hate BUT,
I can not let it rule my life.

I have other physical issues / ailments, but I'll leave this at that.

None of this may help you, or it might if I say that 'you aint alone,' just don't make yourself feel as if you are.

Best of luck.
Sash.

Answer 4

stephenn1 has the right answer this time. Call the Suicide Hotline. Your chest is not a reason for that kind of action. You are fine just the way you are. Make the call. Reach out for help. You did the right thing posting your question here. That in itself is reaching out. All I am telling you is to keep going forward with this. You are on the right track, so pick up the phone and call the hotline. It will be the smartest thing you ever did. I also do not know where you are, but if I did I would walk with you and admit you to the nearest hospital so you would be in a safe environment where you could totally relax and get your bearings and have the support and love you so strongly need right now. Please do us all a favour here on Yahoo! Answers and pick up that phone and make the call. If you know someone who could go with you and drive you to the hospital, do it. I will be praying for you this evening. It is time for you to allow others who are totally trained for this to help you. We on Yahoo! Answers do not have the training necessary to help you the way it needs to be done. Thank you for reading this. Chris in South Portland, Maine, U.S.A. (I am 63 years old, and there is more to life than how your chest looks. You are a valuable human being. Value yourself and care for yourself and make the call.)

Answer 5

What you do is tell your doctor that you are having suicidal thoughts. You need treatment for that too. I have never heard of your condition and do not know how it impacts the body or brain. Is it life threatening or an aesthetic problem? Whatever the case, your physician should educate you about the condition and make you aware of any mental problems associated with medications or those inherent in just having the condition and provide COUNSELING options for you. S/he should also tell you about the surgical procedures, recovery and any cosmetic options. Ask for material to read, google your condition or consult Web Md or similar sites. Keep a journal to jot down anything you don't understand to ask your doctor about later. You also need to write down the answers you get to refer to later. Knowing as much as you can about your condition will make you feel less powerless, victimized and afraid.

In the meantime, if it is an aesthetic problem that the surgery is designed to cosmetically correct, then you need to tell yourself that this is going to pass. Wear a shirt to cover it. Nobody needs to know your condition unless you show or tell them. Unless you have to monitor for changes until the surgery, I'd suggest you avoid looking at it if it upsets you so much. You can still keep up your hygiene, just avoid a mirror when shirtless.

What is a small deal to some is a big deal to others,I know; but take it from someone who suffered several major surgeries (all before 25) and has the rather large and unsightly scars to prove it, life is worth living. Those who value you will see you for the person you are and not for your condition. THAT INCLUDES YOU!

My scars are abdominal. I've never worn a bikini. A small trade off for a wonderfully satisfying life in many ways. In a way, my scars are a blessing. I learned modesty and to only be intimate with someone after I knew they were not shallow and were truly into me as a person. It takes someone special to be with me because of my standards, not because of how I look due to what I had to endure to survive! It has not made any difference otherwise. I am still the sexiest woman alive!
Hold on. What doesn't kill you does make you stronger. I also recommend prayer.

Answer 6

Well I think every body at least once in a lifetime want to die. Life can get really difficult, and yours looks very difficult at this moment. Each day can bring bitter experiences but also can bring beautiful things. Think in these beautiful things that you can enjoy daily: the company of good friends, the love of your family, the sunshine, the breeze, the laugh of the kids etc... Think that you are not alone, and that even when your condition looks very unique, always there is somebody with a similar problem.

I don't know if you believe in the Bible, but any way, 1 Corinthians 10:13 said: "No temptation has taken you except what is common to men. But God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear, but along with the temptation he will also make the way out in order for you to be able to endure it." God doesn't let us bear more of what we can take in our hands.
If you need to talk with somebody, well you can email me to [e-mail]

I hope you feel better.

Answer 7

Talk to your family, friends, anyone. Get some professional help. Don't bottle things up. It makes you feel worse. And it would destroy the people who love you if you were to do anything so drastic and they were to lose you.

You can email the samaritans online. Do a yahoo search.

Don't chuck it all in. You're only 19 and have got your whole life ahead of you. What seem like insurmountable problems right now, only serve to blur the horizon.

Talk to the people who love you most. Your parents or siblings.

Chin up, good luck and be positive with what you HAVE got. Enjoy your life. Its what your parents struggled all those years for when they raised you. : )

Answer 8

Listen mate, no matter how bad you think things are, dropping a load of pills will not only lead to a long, drawn out and painful death but just think about your mum, dad, brothers, sisters, mates. How do you think they would feel?

There are loads of people out there who have disabilities of one sort or another and they have learned to cope with things. You have to remember that you are not alone.

I have seen dozens and dozens of people with pectus excavatum on the wards. It is really common and nothing to get stressed about. There is pectus carinatum (a pigeon chest) too plus a whole load of other conditions that thousands of people up and down the land have.

Please don't worry about it. Most people are so obsessed about how big their t*ts are, how small their willy is, how fat they are, how tall they are, how short they are, how skinny they are etc etc that they wouldn't even notice. Almost everyone has something about them that they are not happy with so you are not alone.

You need a plan.....

1. Speak to your doctor about how you feel. Not only will he/she be able to help with your mood if you need it, but they will also be able to put you in touch with someone else just like you so that you can talk to them about how it has affected their life. Most of these patients don't give it a second thought and lead happy lives.

2. Keep yourself occupied. There is nothing better than going for a run or some other form of exercise that will help to clear your mind and release some positive endorphins to make you feel good.

3. Don't go out and get drunk at the weekend. In your current state of mind you could end up doing something you will really regret. Alcohol makes us all act stupid, but in your case it could be dangerous so please don't go out and get drunk.

4. Apply for those jobs. No one is going to ask you slip your shirt off during the interview so relax. No one has ever asked me to strip off in work either so you can chill out on that front too.

I know you can get into a positive frame of mind. In a few months you could be working and enjoying life and all of this will just be a distant memory. The alternative may be a way out for you, but at the cost of lifelong misery for your family and friends who will forever wish that you had spoken to them about this.

You can do it lad!!!!

Good luck!

Answer 9

if your feelings are not caused by a mental disorder then... you need to change the way your looking at things... ive been there a fewtimes. but the first thing is that you need to bealeve that your worth it and that it should mean enough to you...just think you may just be the person to save some one help some one or be the biggest thing to happen to someone you dont know what the future holds and you should live for the thought of some thing better in the future thats what i do. and i dont really even know you and i would not want that to happen to you. so i advise you not to, its always your choice but its now worth what does to the future you could have changed and the people you know...look i dont even know you and i dont want this to happen to you.

Answer 10

Think of the things you want to be doing dave,and make them your goal.just coz you cant have them now love doesnt mean never!working to goals gives you a drive and a dream of better things to come.it also occupies your mind right now so all those thoughts deminish.Ive had plenty of ops and have been where your at you hun have age on your side and a healthy future.im 45 and now in a chair but also in need of a goal to divert such thought so mines my kids future im living by proxy kid.you have a chance of the real thing dont throw it all away coz theres a bit of a wait xxxxxx you can do it you want to