why he has not yet have an orgasm with me? I have a way too many, but he has not have any yet. We have been 3 times together, greaaat times, 3, 2 and 2 hours in bed each time...and nothing. It is exhausting to be with someone that long lasting. I consider the question embarrasing. What do you think? Do you think it might because of me? Probably he does not like me enough? He is 20 years older than me.
2007-03-01 12:20:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is too sexual. It is not that he cannot get it up. It is too up.
2007-03-01 12:27:58 · update #1
He may be taking male stimulants like viagra or something. It reduces his sensation and therefore could be the cause of him not reaching his point. I wouldn't mention it if he doesn't.
p.s. If it was really you, he couldn't keep up the pace constantly and sex with you would be a turn off......... "Its not you"!
2007-03-01 12:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, with that amount of "control" on his part, it becomes difficult for a guy to reach orgasm. He's probably trying to be the energizer bunny in bed because he doesn't want to loose you. He thinks, because you're so much younger, that he has to keep going and going........and then it becomes difficult to "let it go". Just wait for a time when he's really in the mood and make it totally about his orgasm. Maybe even stay dressed.....or partially dressed. You might even try telling him you have a surprise for him. Sit him in front of the TV, pop in an explicit video then tell him to watch as you stimulate him. Just don't make him feel pressured to "perform". I'm sure what's happening isn't because he doesn't like you, it's because he does........a lot! *been there too*
2007-03-01 13:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by nick_nunya2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a guy that was 25 years older than me and he had an orgasm within the first 5 minutes. Now when he took viagra he would last alot longer so maybe your guy is taking something to help him stay erect longer. Just ask and see what he says.
2007-03-01 12:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by alana t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, girl runaway! Been there, done that. At first I was amazed in how long he could hold, but then after awhile of him not climaxing it gets old. Then you start wondering if it is your fault; sometimes they are into some fantasy or weird fetish and they are not able to orgasm if there aren't doing it (don't do anything that you don't feel confortable or might regret later).
Think about how much you like this guy, weight all the positive and negative things of him. If there is more cons than pros, walk away before its too late.
2007-03-01 12:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by dragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you want to watch him masturbate. If he orgasms within the first few moments then it might be your technique. If it's 20 minutes later, he's sweating, red faced, and pumping away like crazy.......then it might not necessarily be you! Let's not forget that little blue pills are made to get things up! They make no mention of guaranteeing the money shots!
2007-03-01 12:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling if you can be naked if front of the man for 3, 2, and 2 hours in bed you have thrown caution to the wind. There is no room for embarrassment. You have shared a very intimate moment and if you can't ask him what's on your mind then maybe you shouldn't be sleeping with him.
2007-03-01 12:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It might be because he's 20 years older than you.
Ask him what he likes, what he would like you to do.
2007-03-01 12:24:46 · answer #7 · answered by brand_new_monkey 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO DONT ASK HIM!!!! He's probably just a person with a strong sex drive...If you ask him about it he'll probably wont be in the mood anymore, for now just "enjoy the ride" so to speak....
2007-03-01 12:27:38 · answer #8 · answered by BAMM-BAMM 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to leave the Viagra along, and you may be able to satisfy him. That's if he can get it up.
2007-03-01 18:11:44 · answer #9 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him not to take more than one Viagra at a time, it can kill him
2007-03-01 14:50:38 · answer #10 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋