My son is now 14 months old and the passion is GONE. I look at my husband and sometimes wonder what I ever thought was attractive about him. He's a nice guy... but I'm just not interested in him sexually anymore. Is this normal?
2007-03-01 11:44:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jackie, I really think that this is pretty normal. There are many factors that contribute to this. Fatigue and changing hormones have something to do with it. Also, if you are on birth control especially the pill, it decreases your libido (sex drive). I encourage you to talk to your doctor, they might be able to help. I went through this too. Don't get discouraged and stop trying. It will get better. This is a tough time in a marriage but it will change. Try to make time to reconnect with your husband. Make it a priority. Your relationship created that darling baby so don't neglect it. ( I speak from experience there!)
2007-03-01 12:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 4 month old and am experiencing the same problem, but not to the extreme you're describing. I still find my husband attractive, but I have no interest in sex whatsoever. It could be a combination of imbalanced hormones (yes, even over a year after pregnancy they can still be messed up), stress, exhaustion, boredom....All kinds of things. Try to take a small vacation sans children and see if anything "pops up". If not, counseling to talk all of this out BEFORE it becomes a major issue is a must!
2007-03-01 11:53:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if it is normal but it happens a lot. It happened to me for a while after I had my second kid. But it was only for a while not 14 months. Are you getting enough sleep? Is he helping you out with the baby? These things can make you a little bitter and sometimes not very sexual.
2007-03-01 11:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by daprty1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens. You're probably tired, your hormones may not have straightened back out, and your focus is now on being a Mom and not being a lover.
You need to get him to give you some time away from being a Mom, and you need to institute a "date night" for just the two of you. If it means your little one spends the evening with a relative, and you just get to spend an evening snuggling...whatever you can afford and manage.
2007-03-01 11:57:39 · answer #4 · answered by Kaia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're just too tired.Try to get a babysitter and find some 1-on-1 time with hubby to rekindle the passion.
2007-03-01 11:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is normal but later on when your child is old enough you will probably get your sexual passion for him back.
2007-03-01 12:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Kalinda 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hell no... You need to go to the doctor and work this out before you loose the best thing that ever happened to you.
2007-03-01 11:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Kamm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't know if it's normal but my desire absolutely did not diminish. My husband was lucky there.
2007-03-01 11:50:24 · answer #8 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Girl... I so feel you on this.
I should have married a gay guy...no sex, great conversation, fun shopping sprees... it woulda been much better for all involved lol.
2007-03-01 11:49:57 · answer #9 · answered by 452 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
no vagina - no peace
2007-03-01 11:51:37 · answer #10 · answered by edna b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋