PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!! i feel like a failure.?

Question

i am really stressed and angry about alot of things in my life right now, have everyone at my throat and annoying me. i feel like giving up and admitting that i'm a failure.
i need a great way to get rid of all of my anger. I'm only 13, i dont think i should have all this stess in my life.
thank you

i also feel so alone, with no one to talk to.
when i try to talk to my parents they say i'm stupid and let me down. when i try to tell my friends, they tell me to get a life. what should i do?

NO ONE suggest therapy, my parents wont take me and my school dosnt provide it.

Answer 1

I'm so sorry to hear that you are feeling this way. My daughter is almost 13, and I know that it can be a very stressful time. I'll tell you what we try to do, and maybe that will help you, too.

First of all, at age 13, you are still in the process of becoming the person you will be as an adult. Along this journey, you will make mistakes, just like everyone else. That's normal and it's part of growing up. Try to remember that making mistakes is one thing. It's forgivable. Learning from them is how you become a better person. You're not perfect, and neither are the people around you. Your friends are growing up, too. They are making mistakes right along with you, so learn how to forgive them and hope that they are learning how to be better people along the way.

Second, you cannot possibly assess your life at age 13. At 90, maybe. At 13, you can start defining some of your goals. Who do you want to be? What kind of person? What interests do you want to pursue? I tell my daughter to always do the right thing, no matter what, and then she'll know in her heart that things will work out in the long run. That advice has helped her when she has been faced with peer pressure at school.

Third, I am surprised to learn that your parents tell you that you are stupid. I hope that's not the case. Are you coming to them in a calm way to talk about what's bothering you? Try asking your Mom if there is some time that you two can spend together to talk. Moms worry about their daughters. I suspect she would want to help if she can. Give her another chance and try not to get frustrated with her. Sometimes we just need you to crack the door open and let us in. Remember, we were once your age, and we do have some experience we can share. We love you!

If you really can't talk with your parents, perhaps you can seek out a trusted aunt, neighbor, or teacher to talk with. It always helps to have someone with experience on your side.

I hope this helps a little. Keep your chin up. If it's any consolation, you won't even remember some of these troubles when you get older.

Answer 2

I have been in your situation too. You don't sound stupid, you actually sound really mature for your age. Don't let things get you down right now. You are too young and there is so much to live for, you just don't see it yet. In a couple of years your not even going to remember the things that are going on right now. You are worth more then you know. Your friends sound immature, and sometimes they don't understand because they don't sympathize with you. You have to talk to a nurse at school, counselor a family member someone older that can give you help. Be safe and pray to get through all this teenage stress. What can be stressing you at such a young age? Email me if you want. It seems serious,.

Answer 3

Get involved with something you really enjoy. Maybe a group at your school - choir, a theatrical production, a foreign language club. Maybe a church, synagogue or other faith-based group. Maybe a recreational sports team - something as intense as basketball or something as playful as ping pong.

Volunteer. Find a place where you can go and be surrounded by new people with new wisdom. You'll gain your own sense of individuality and responsibility from this - you'll have your own expectations, and you won't face demands from people you see everyday. A nursing home. An animal shelter. A food kitchen.

Learn something new. Find a creative outlet. Get a canvas and paint your anger. Write a sonnet about your feelings (and learn the formulation required to do so). The concentration required to sustain a new activity will help focus your thoughts away from the problems you face. You'll find a way to mentally pull yourself away from the situations that hurt you, and you'll learn to rise above it.

You can do it!

Answer 4

It sounds like you might suffer from clinical depression. If you have a guidance councelor at your school, talk to them and tell them what you told us. If you don't have a guidance councelor, then talk to your school nurse. You need a trusted adult that will listen to you and act on your behalf so you can get the help you need. You really do need to see a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist of some kind to figure out what the problem actually is and get you the help you need so you can feel better. Even if all you need is just someone to talk to each week to get things off your chest...or maybe something more serious like medication for depression. One way or another, you need an adult you can trust to be an advocate for you who will talk to your parents and tell them how serious this is and that they need to take you to see someone.

Until then, maybe you can try meditation to help you ease some of the tension and stress. Using lavendar scented candles or like lavendar scented oil (even if it's a glade plug in) can help relax you a bit.

I really hope things work out. Good luck and don't give up.

Answer 5

>>Get involved in some type of sport. You will work on being healthier and in better shape but also be able to take out your stress while doing so. Do not get involved with drugs, sex or anything bad as it will just come back to haunt you. Pour yourself into your school work and become the best that you can be. Join a club of some kind. Another sure way to make yourself feel better is to help someone that is not as well off as you.

Answer 6

I'm 13 too and i totally feel your anger. I get mad so easily when i have a big test coming up or just a lot of really stressful events have been going on. I really like to vent all of my feelings by writing. It helps me a lot. It seems kinda weird at first but meditating helps too! I like to just light a few candles and incense and just chill while listening to some soft music. I also love to take bubble baths! Hot bubble baths! While i'm in the bath i usually draw or something to get my mind off of things! Hope i helped!

Answer 7

Me, I'm 13 too. I was stressful (grades and whatnot), until I started thinking "hm... I'm letting things get to me. I'm being weak, that's not like you now is it? I'm no looser! ... And I'll be *amned if I let one of these fools control my emotions!" so I started perking myself up. Everyone who annoyed my I would say "Thank you!" (or give them a piece of my mind) they'd have a confused expression (because they weren't expecting that) and Id smile and walk on... It's all about how YOU think. How YOU feel. Never let someone get the best of you. Life will just go downhill until you "Conquer Yourself" ... my motto anyway. It's not a disorder, it's YOU! Some crappy name doesn't explain you.

Whatever the reason fo your depression, just remember, never be conquered, never let ANYTHING get to you (people/ objects/ animals etc.) You control everything in your life, good and bad. Even your emotions.

Answer 8

Well, there are ups and downs for every individual whether you are rich, poor, popular, lonely, happy or unhappy person.

It will come to pass. In religious point, you should pray and ask God for help. In pyschological view, you should go to doctor. However, if above are not avaible, I suggest you do some exercise to let out your anger, or your helpless conscience. run away, sweat it out and you may feel better.

Yes, finding someone to share your pain is very important, but if you can't find someone. Try to write a daily, write out all your thought in piece of paper. Trust me, after days, months or years, when you look back, you will find yourself silly and perhaps that will also help overcome some failure feeling.

Answer 9

Go to library and start reading every self help book for the next few years. By the time you are 18 years old you will be head of most of the teenagers going into adulthood.

I did this at age 20 and it changed my direction for the better. I wish yahoo answers was around in my day to get such advice.

Answer 10

OMG! Ihave the same problem. I just turned 13 and I thought it would be a blast! But now it feels like I just had the weight of the worlds dropped on my shoulders and nobody is willing to help me carry it! It sucks! I can't talk about it with my friends cuz they wouldn't understand. hope it helps to know that someone else is willing to listen to u! I wouldnt mind 4getting about my sucky life and hlp u deal with urs!