My ex-boyfriend and "baby's dadday" broke up with me while I was pregnant and now he wants me back, what now?

Question

After his mom expressed her concerns to both him and me by asking me if I was sure it was his child and why didn't we use protection, he broke up with me. I got upset with her and made a big deal of it and still respected her for the benefit of not disrespecting him. He later confessed to breaking up with me because he was scared of having a child (did I mention he "hates condomns"). He did nothing for me or the child until my was almost a month old and even then it was the bare minimum and pushed me away everytime I brought up him have a DNA test. I then put him on child support which he disagreed with. Now my baby is 3 months old and we recently tried having a friendship in which we at least act civil for the sake of the child and when he found out that I was not interested in a relationship, well, lets just say a DNA test was thrown up in my face. I've remained calm up until this point but after him leaving while I was only five months pregnant and having to deal with mom I'm tired

Answer 1

Definitely do the DNA test. This guy is totally immature and obviously shouldn't be allowed to have unprotected sex if he can't take the consequences. Just do the DNA test and turn it in to the court system so that you can request child support. He is so not worth the drama.

Good Luck

Answer 2

My husband left me when I was 5 months pregnant with his child and we were married, he asked to come back when the baby was 7 weeks old, at which time he proceeded to make life miserable for everyone, he refused to quit smoking in the house around the baby and she developed an upper respiratory infection that later turned to asthma, we fought like cats and dogs about the baby, he was so jealous of the baby, I later became resentful about the way he left me to fend for myself while I was pregnant and the way he treated the baby when I took him back.....I regretted taking him back, I left him many years ago and its the best thing I couldn've done.

P.S. I also had to sue him for child support because he refused take financial responsibilty for the baby. That baby is now 14yrs old and is an "A,B" student and doing great!

Answer 3

i have not even bothered to study even 0.5 of what you wrote, no longer because it isn't genuine, my wager is it really is, yet because the themes you've come all the way down to 2 straight forward issues: a million) pride; and a couple of) sin. If we take the first one, pride, there's a lot of what you're saying that comes all the way down to you telling her or letting her trust issues about you or your plans that are not genuine. you could't blame her in case you said such and such and then she discovered out the confusing way that what you said wasn't genuine. that is an argument you should address, and it isn't about you telling her, it really is about you replacing your heart. you've come to a non secular communicate board, so i'm guessing you assume to hearken to that Jesus does grant a answer, which he does: Love your neighbour as your self! the in effortless words way you could substitute your heart is via putting Jesus as first on your life. once you do this, then he will substitute your heart, and at the same time as he does so then pride can be dealt with, because pride is one type of sin. Which brings us to the second one element: sin. the very truth she receives jealous at the same time as a lady rings is because she would not trust you ... no, you do not blame her for that, you want to blame your self. You created the mistrust, so that you want to create trust. lower back, the topic of her desiring an abortion is because she would not trust you to help her and the youngster, so that you want for instance you'd be relied on.

Answer 4

Quit dealing with them and move on. Do what you have to to get child support if you need it.