My parents might be getting a divorce how do i handle it!!! HELP!!!
2007-03-01 11:37:08 · 6 answers · asked by kwatkins061793 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You handle it by realizing that when two people aren't happy sharing a life together, they must find a way to a better life which sometimes means divorce. People were not meant to live their lives in misery whether they have kids or not. You may not believe this now, but your life will be much better if your parents can find the happiness they need apart. It will be a more stable environment for you to grow up in and give your parents a chance to concentrate on helping you deal with your problems instead of being so consumed in their own. It will be a hard adjustment for you and your parents if it does happen, but you can and will survive it just fine. Just remember that people sometimes make mistakes when they chose a husband or wife and unfortunately it is a mistake that you must also deal with.
2007-03-01 11:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you, based on my own experience, the way to handle this is not to take sides and just accept that your parents are not right for each other if devorce is to take place. In the adult world it is not uncommon that you can spend so many years with one person only to realize that it was a wrong person. And that is fine tell you the truth, because people learn and find what they really want in their own time. You need to accept that this is part of life and is very common thing. Most importantly, do not get your mind too much in their situation. Its between your parents, most likely (even though I don't know the situation). It has nothing to do with you and you cannot hold a grudge towards either of them. I wish you luck and hope it will not effect you the way it effected me. Believe me on that, if you don't forgive them for doing this to you (even though they are not really doing anything to your, you just happen to be there while its happening), you will spend lots of year in emotional pain. Wish you luck.
2007-03-01 11:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by Iamverybroken 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I'm sorry for what you're going through.
Maybe the divorce will be in everyone's best interest. I know it's breaking up what you know, but maybe your mom and dad will be better people afterwards. Even w/out knowing them, I feel comfortable telling you that they both still love you. This will be extremely rough on both of them as well as on you, but if you keep your communication open, it might help alleviate some of the pain.
Just try not to take sides and speak up if one or the other is trying to put you in the middle. This isn't your 'fight' and you don't need to get involved in the 'adult' side of things.
Good luck to you!!
2007-03-01 11:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by Bobbie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit them both down and tell them how you feel!!! Tell them that the LEAST they can do is to stay together until you and or your siblings are up and out. They OWE it to you. Bless your heart. Just tell them how you feel. It may not help....but it will make them think about how it's not only about THEM. They are being selfish!!! They made a commitment,,,,and they have kids that DESERVE a 2 parent family.
2007-03-01 11:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by youizbaby 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my parents got a divorce when me and my sister were still in high school. please understand that their divorce has NOTHING to do with their love for you. please stay out of it. don't get involved in this. you can start by taking one day at a time.
2007-03-01 11:56:53 · answer #5 · answered by cfalways 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think about two or more presents for B-days and X-mas and things like that. It's the only thing that kept me from crying my eyes out when my father died but then, I was only 10.
2007-03-01 11:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋