I've asked so many questions on here but I love to hear others views. Me and my ex of 7 years broke up and he moved 2000 miles away..Well, he moved before we broke up..I know there isn't another woman. I am pregnant with his child and we are very young...22 & 23. We had our wedding planned before the baby. Dr. said I would never be able to have kids..my ex wanted one and I ended up getting pregnant. We wasn't trying because of what the Dr. told me. He was very excited while I was kind of depressed because I wanted to be married and have my degree. Now, I wish he comes back and I know alot of people thinks that is stupid. We had a pretty good relationship, His father walked out on him as a baby. He tells me he misses me and loves me but picks stupid fights..Does distance really make the heart grow fonder?? I told him last night we shouldn't talk until we clear our heads..Has this every happened to anyone?
2007-03-01 11:36:03 · 6 answers · asked by angelsdeath420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes I do love him and I want to make it work..He has just lost his mind I believe.
2007-03-01 12:20:05 · update #1
People pick stupid fights to create distance. Sometimes they want the other person to walk out on them. Sort of like his father did to him. Ok but here is the bigger question. Do you love him? Would you be settling if you got involved with him again? You know you will have to tolerate a lot if he "picks fights" and is kind of unaware. Still even if you do not marry him, he may be a great Father. Thing is you cannot make a decision to be with him because you are pregnant. You may be flushing your life down the toilet out of guilt or obligation to an unborn child. The child might actually admire your courage someday if you do not marry him, if you do not love him. A child can know that you valued their life, and valued your love for him/her, but that you just did not believe it was honest to marry their father because you were not in love...and that is the bottom line. What do you want? This of course happens a great deal...more than you will ever know.
I wish you the best.
2007-03-01 11:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Distance does not make the heart grow fonder. What happens is that his face isn't in your face to remind you of what about him pisses you off.
So, in that respect, distance makes you think you like him. It's like me and eggplant. Every few years I see eggplant on a cooking show or in the store and think...gee, I should give that a try again, eggplant parmesan sounds so good. Then I make, it get sick to my stomache and avoid it for another 5 or 6 years.
The precept is also what allows women to have more than one child. Going through labor a woman wonders why in the hell any woman would ever, in a million years, want to do this twice. Then time passes and your child is walking and you see a baby and you think, hmmmm eggplant paremesan, that sounds sooooo goood. So the next thing you know you are in labor again, hating God and cursing anyone with enough balls to come near you, then the eggplant pops out, the pain goes away and your heart forgets how much it hates childbirth...and eggplant.
Have your child. Don't manipulate anything and don't let your hormone immersed brain run the show. You should stay in a holding pattern, lifestyle wise, until the baby is old enough so that you actually have some time to devote to a man, whether it is the child's father or another.
Good luck.
2007-03-01 19:58:24 · answer #2 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It hasn't happened to me, but as you have already thought of I am sure. Is about the baby and its future. While you two are hashing things out on the phone, discuss with him about the petty fights. It sounds to me that you two can make it work. If anything this being apart should have been test enough to see if the two of you really love each other. Best wishes to you and baby.
2007-03-01 19:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Distance has a way of ending relationships, so you need to find out what his intentions are for you and your baby. Things could work out if this is what the two of you decide to do and make sure there are no doubts for your sake.
2007-03-02 01:52:32 · answer #4 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read ten stupid things couples do to mess up their relationship by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger. That will answer a lot of your questions. Then read stupid things parents do to mess up their kids by Dr. Laura and that will answer all your questions.
2007-03-01 19:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
why did you break up? if you had a good relationship and there isn't another woman, i would take him back.
2007-03-01 19:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by casper 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋