A lot of people on here know me. I am straight forward and honest. I aked my gf and future wife to leave me alone this evening because I think she can find better than me. She was heartbroken and so am I. I dont know what to do. This is the first time I been seriously stuck. We are lesbians by the way.
2007-03-01 11:28:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Why do you think so little of yourself that you would rather push away the woman you love and make the pair of you unhappy than take the plunge and admit that you are a good person and deserve to be in love.
If you werent good enough for her she wouldnt want to be with you. Simple as that. Good luck
2007-03-01 19:42:12 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have said that so many times to my boyfriend in the past.... saying that he could do better than me.
I guess I felt low and lacked confident at times which turned into anger/defence leading me to pick on my boyfriend. I felt angry and wanted to hurt myself but it was hurt him as well... which just made it even worse!!Emotion can be a funny thing.
My boyfriend kept telling me that he felt the same and how I could do better than him but I wanted to be with him. We just got over our emotions and had a good long talk to remind each other what we meant to each other.
We have been together for 7 years now and we all have had our up and downs.
Please trust me.... go back and get her. She probably feels that you have rejected her and that she's no good for you while you are thinking totally the opposite.
We all get emotional or hormonal at some point but after a day or few days it all falls back into place which makes the whole thing seem pointless, maybe silly.
I hope I am making sense here....
2007-03-05 17:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by _ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, what you did was terrible. You can't let your insecurities hurt the people that love you. By making such a statement not only did you hurt her but showed her how insecure your are about yourself and your relationship with her. There must be something underlying here that your aren't sharing. You need to take a closer look at yourself and find out why you are insecure about your relationship with her. You also need to know if she didn't want to be with you she wouldn't be. You need to accept the fact that she has decided to be with you, you should be very proud of that and do everything you can to show her how much you love her. What you did, for what ever reason is not justifiable. You need to go back to her and tell her you are sorry and you take back those words. You've just made her feel like she has been wasting her time on you and that you don't know how much she loves you. That was a selfish act on your part and you should never say anthing like again ever. You need to write her a poem (I wrote some today you can use some of mine if you like) see my previous questions. I know you must really feel bad, but stop thinking about yourself and think about how you made her feel. You need to be proud of yourself and give your lady something to be proud of. By acting like that you're not. Be strong and ensure your lady she is yours and will always be yours and you are the only person in the world that will ever make her happy, get a grip, please. LUV Doris.
2007-03-01 20:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by . 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are both unhappy it could be because you both care about each other and now you have split up this is going to change everything, but time may heal. If you are both unhappy because you really don't feel it was the right thing to do then do something about it. You need to think about your reasons for wanting to split. You also owe it to your gf to give her a proper explaination and not just the cop out of 'you can do better.'
2007-03-02 02:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first I doubt it should really matter that your lesbians. Second, take some time don't get all worked up and don't tell her to leave you. You are begging for her attention right now, or that's what I would think if I was her. I would be disgusted with you and probably would go find better.
2007-03-01 19:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself what happened today to make you feel this way. we all get the jitters when in a serious relationship whether gay, straight or inbetween. if this is the case then just talk to your gf and work it through together. if there is anything else bothering you then talk to someone you trust outside the relationship. there is obviously love there or you wouldn't be asking for advise. communication is the key to a good relationship. good luck
2007-03-01 19:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by val f1 nutter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pauline...why would you do such a thing? Sure, there are times when any couple desires their time to be alone, but it must come with the understanding that you still love your partner, but you just want to be alone for a bit. It is perfectly natural that people have times like this, but you must make that known to your potential partner upfront so they don't think that you don't love them.
2007-03-01 19:33:03 · answer #7 · answered by MaryCheneysAccessory 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get help so that you can get over your feelings of inadequacy!!! You should be concentrating on enjoying your relationship! My partner is ten years younger than me, and I used to have concerns about the age gap. But I learned to appreciate what I have. Stop worrying about what may happen in the future, it may never happen. If you love each other, than that is what is important.
2007-03-02 00:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know i know allot about you and th type of person you really are
Anne must be wanting some thing out of you
lets just think what that could be
a house to stay in
a person to live with
maybe a partner for the rest of her life
ok possibly a citizenship
and to get out of her country
it can not be more money
but maybe it could be your love and to love you as you are a beautiful person on the inside and out
please do not put your self down like this
but i understand you are only doing it for love
2007-03-02 10:50:49 · answer #9 · answered by Zara3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have low self-esteem issues. this could be a sign of depression. nobody should ever state that they are "not good enough" for a partner.. we are all human beings, we all desire love and partnership. and we chose partners based on compatible needs.. your partner chose to be with you because she feels you are indeed a good match!
talk to her and explain you are depressed and that you don't really want to break up.. explain that you may need time alone now and then do deal with your pesonal issues..
but if your relationship is serious, then go to councilling for depression and have her come with you..
2007-03-01 22:35:52 · answer #10 · answered by Jeff 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋