My husband of six years has been addicted to crack and cocaine for a year now. He has almost ruined us finacially, has lost two jobs now because of his addiction.
Today, he and his stupid sister STOLE my checks out of the mail today. This is a NEW account in MY name only. He found out about it yesterday, and I didn't think anything of it until the bank called me this evening stating that they had him and his sister in the drive thru, and asked me if I had wrote him a check. I told the lady that I have not received my checks yet, and she said that she noticed that my signature (I scribble) on this check did not match the one that she remembered from me opening my accounts, and she pulled my signature cards and they were drastically different.
She refused the check, kept it, and closed my checking and canceled my debit and credit cards.
I made a police report and they told me that I should go ahead and press charges.
2007-03-01 11:08:41 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am very concerned about my MIL. She is 70, knows what her children are doing. She is VERY fragile right now, her daughter and her boyfriend burned her house down this summer smoking crack. She is the nicest lady, and I do not want to put any more on her, and I HATE tearing our family apart this way.
2007-03-01 11:10:24 · update #1
Unfortunately all of you are on a freight train going in the wrong direction. You have watched your husband for 1 YEAR doing this and now you have the guts to write us about it. It is too LATE. The train is going off the cliff now...with your MIL on-board too. That is the result of crack and its tornado effect. It has sucked everything in its path with it.
So, it would be best to visit with the Police and discuss what has been going on. Lay it out truthfully. They will tell you what is going to happen. The Police will want to know where he got the crack from also...so that will open up another problem. Likely, your husband will do some time in jail...maybe probation. However, the addition problem must be dealt with...otherwise, he will continue to search out the drugs and possibly commit a higher crime to get them.
You and your MIL are going to suffer more if you don't do your part. You are already guilty of a crime because you have knowledge about his problem and just let it lie. Do the right thing, press charges, seek help also. You may loose your marriage over it... But, you will loose it anyway the way things have been going. We all feel for you...let us know what you do...
2007-03-02 05:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by }-{2(o) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not tearing your family apart, your husband is. I know that does not make it any easier, but if you have any love for this man you will call the police and file the report. It will be the best thing for him. It is the only way he will admit he has a problem. This may force him into getting the help he seriously needs. If you let him continue on his destructive path, he will seriously hurt himself or someone else. You are doing the best thing, even though it don't feel like that right now. My heart goes out to you. You have to use tough love. When your husband goes to court for this offense, be there ask to speak and let the judge know this man needs some serious help. They will ask him if this is so and the judge will refer him to resources that can help him. You need to give him an ultimatum and tell him to make up his mind get the help he needs or you are leaving him. He will make the right decision if not you are better off. He will come back in time. Again my heart goes out to you and you will make the right decision. I feel for his mom too , but she should not of let him continue on this destructive path or she will lose him to a far worse place than jail or rehab it could be death. There is nothing worse than a mother burying her own child. God bless you all.
2007-03-01 11:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The family's love is a crack addicts crutch. You have to follow through on the charges. I know this can be hard on you and your MIL, but it will be best if you put an end to this crack dynasty before a stranger have to do it. Your willing to overlook this because of the fragile MIL, plays right into a crackhead's gameplan.
End it now! if you care ............ you'll be saving their lives.
2007-03-01 11:49:18 · answer #3 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you need to put him in jail. It could be the wake up call he needs to get his life straightened out. Talk to your mother in law before you do this and explain what is about to happen.I am sure she wants what is best for him. Or if you are not sure about the jail tell him he has to go to rehab and if he wont go you will have him put in jail, but make those his only two options. Just be careful because even after rehab if he goes he might relapse. Good Luck on this.
2007-03-01 11:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by HOT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may hurt your MIL even worse if you don't do something to stop her son. She could be his next target and it could turn into physical harm coming to her if she doesn't give him what he wants. Addiction has no limits to moral or physical behavior. Your husband needs to be put away for everyone's safety and well being. It may be the hardest thing you will ever do, but right now you have the most power to provide safety to his entire family. Do whatever you need to, but do the right thing here and stop him while you have the power to do so.
2007-03-01 11:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One persons' opinion - yes send him to jail. With any luck he can rehab while in.
You are so kind to worry about your MIL - but you did not bring the additional stress to her - her own children managed to accomplish that on their own.
It is so sad to hear that another person that you cared enough to marry has created a living hell for you.
Please - I hope that both you and your MIL can stay safe - any way of insuring that this can happen?
2007-03-01 11:26:10 · answer #6 · answered by scpathfinder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, the best thing to do would be to turn him into the cops. After that, they'll or you'll have to check him into drug rehab. Hopefully after all that, things will get better for you. You can't go on forever living like the way you are. As for your mother in law, comfort her in this time of need. If you have to, have her to move in with you, while her son's away at jail or whatever so she can be watched, if you're that concerned. Please, get help, honey.
2007-03-01 11:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES he needs jail time and REHAB. How long are you going to continue to let him to tear your marriage apart and he needs to stop breaking is mothers heart. His addiction has gotten the best of him. You should get a p.o box at a post office and have your checks sent there.
2007-03-01 11:16:28 · answer #8 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn them in as it is they who are tearing the family apart . It appears likely letting them off the hook will only encourage their behavior further until someone gets really hurt or killed even . Both are not going to get help unless forced too , it's no easy decision but one which is best made anyway . good luck !
2007-03-01 11:16:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Press charges.
Take care of your MIL, and keep SIL and H away from her (and any other toxic family members). She's probably stronger than you think.
Send a bouquet of flowers to the lady at the bank! She deserves it!
Have you considered divorce?
2007-03-01 11:16:29 · answer #10 · answered by Johnna L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋