I work at a school I had an affair with a teacher here. It cost me my marriage. I work in the cafeteria. Everybody knows about it. Do these things last?
2007-03-01 11:06:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No
Don't go to bed where you get your bread
Don't get your honey where you get your money
Don't crap where you eat.
You are not done losing stuff over this affair, watch out.
2007-03-01 11:12:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby, I been there. It hurts, and often the heat came from the forbidden aspect of the relationship. If you can keep it hot, build a RELATIONSHIP beyond the sex, and keep it discreet (VERY important), you have a slight chance of converting to something longer term.
But affairs (as I know, to my pain) are not really destined for longevity. They are based on variety and a certain amount of desperation, both of which are offset by having a new lover.
There is hope, but it is hard. All depends on the other person - are they actually open to love, or were they just up for the heat? Can you both be cool at work?
Affairs are sort of like an orgasm - the getting there is almost better than the actual consummation.
2007-03-01 19:27:30 · answer #2 · answered by Randy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first question you have to ask yourself is why did HE have an affair with you? (Was it a fling, was he in a bad marriage) The second question then becomes why do you want to stay with him?
I lay them out like this Betty because you have to figure out how much you and he are willing to risk.
Did it cost him his marriage like it cost you, or is he still happily married, while you are cast aside? Now that everyone knows, what is he doing about it? Is he staying by your side and supporting your relationship, or is he running and hiding like most men who cheat on their spouses do?
If your relationship is based on lust and passion, chances are being "outed" at school will put out those flames of passion rather quickly. If you survive this, then people at work may look at you as a homewrecker or worse. Can you handle that?
To answer your actual question, relationships at work can endure, but only if they began with mutual respect and admiration, not in the shadows with the two of you sneaking around.
2007-03-01 19:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by am_i_helpful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the saying goes: Don't get your honey and your money in the same place! When the relationship ends, you still have to work there. People start knowing your business. Its not the best idea.
2007-03-01 19:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They can, if you are able to be discreet about it, and keep your private life away from the school, sometimes not though, do what you can to keep things on the down low, so that other people dont talk as much, if you have to, change schools, so that his position remains secure.
2007-03-01 19:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everbody is going to give a rude/daft answer, so here is my honest and sensible answer.
Sometimes is the honest answer.
Lots of folk meet their future partner from work place.
You know what should be done, you are the adult here, not one of the children.
Good luck with your choice, YOUR CHOICE.
2007-03-01 19:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by confused 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For some, yes, for others, no. I personally would feel a little akward dating someone that I work with. That's just me though.
2007-03-01 19:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by soaddicted2this 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say. Some do, some don't. I'm not much help but there is no answer. Good luck.
2007-03-01 19:11:55 · answer #8 · answered by voodoo man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know a lot of couples who made it work.
2007-03-01 19:30:33 · answer #9 · answered by aishah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No
Everyone is always in your business.
2007-03-01 19:20:11 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋