The babys dad and I were together for almost a year, and now him and I aren't speaking anymore. At school I have two classes with him so its a little awkward. His parents have no idea whats going on and neither do my own. I don't know how I'm suppose to tell his parents if I'm not even talking to him anymore. And I'm just really intimidated by my mom, I'm afraid she might do somethng insane, because that's just the kind of person she is. The only person I know that won't go too crazy is my dad. I think.. So anyways about the babys dad and his family, what am I suppose to do?
2007-03-01 10:57:59 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
There's really nothing that you can do about his family. You have to take care of your own. You'll need to file with the state so that you can get child support for the baby. However, it's up to him how he tells his parents and what he tells them.
However, you need to just go ahead and tell your parents and get it over with. You might be surprised by their reaction. It's going to be noticeable soon enough, so best tell them now and be done with the whole thing.
2007-03-01 11:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by InAMoment 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your parents even though you think they go and do something insane. Maybe tell your Dad first and then tell your mom together. You need their support right now and you are 5 months along so you will have a baby in 4 short months. You have to decide what you want to do since you are so young and still in school. You have a lot of decisions to make so tell your parents so you can get that off your mind and can think more clearly about what you need to do next. I suppose you will have to talk to your boyfriend even though you are not together and decide what to do. Don't worry about his parents knowing I am sure they will shortly after your parents do.Good luck.
2007-03-01 11:08:51 · answer #2 · answered by breezy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I was pregnant at 16, that was almost 10 years ago (wow, I feel old). You really need to tell at least your family. You've already gone 5 months and not told even your family at all? What do you plan on happening when you have the baby? If you can't come to terms with telling everyone at once, tell your dad. Then tell your mom. They will probably go a little crazy but it has to done.
After that, I'm sure your family will help you approach his. At least, I'd hope they would.
Are you showing? You really can't wait much longer and if you haven't told anyone, I'm assuming that you haven't gone to see a doctor yet, either. Please, for your healthy and safety not mention the baby's, please go. I will be praying for you in this tough time. I wish I could help.
2007-03-01 11:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by Trouble's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk seriously about this with your ex boyfriend. You are more than half way through your pregnancy so you know you cannot hide it much longer- remember that the child you are carrying has everything it will have at birth except smaller, so that baby is living. Even at 3 weeks after conception the heart is already beating. It will be hard to tell your parents, but as I have experienced by counseling teens in your position they do mostly come around, because they realize that it is their grand child you are carrying. If you feel more comfortable with your dad , tell him first, he may be able to help you with the news with you mom and his family. Did he stop speaking to you because you got pregnant? Remember that he was apart of the reason you are pregnant. If you can email me, I would love to talk more,
2007-03-01 12:08:20 · answer #4 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was pregnant at 16 and my mom found out i was pregnant because she noticed there wasn't any that time of the month products in the trash and she didn't buy any in a long time and I began to show i was about 5months. after the initial shook of it she handled it pretty well Also it was a double whammy to her because the father is black (I am white).I am 28 years old now and everything worked out great. Just sit down with your mom and let her know whats going on she might suprise you if your mom and dad get along sit down with both of them together. Let the babies father find out a way to tell his parents. I hope you two can work out your differences so you both can be there for the baby.
2007-03-01 11:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by lexizazabribri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First...I'd tell your dad in private if you think he's the one with the most level head. That way, he can help you tell your mom and be a little support in case she freaks. You need to do this soon, because you NEED to get some prenatal care!
Secondly, don't worry about the boy's family. That's for him to handle. You need to tell him, though. His reaction may be pretty intense, so be ready for that. After he's been informed and you think you can be civil to each other...you and he need to talk rationally about what you're going to do.
You need to work out whether or not you're keeping the child, or placing him/her for adoption etc... how much the father plans to be in the child's life if you do keep him/her...things like that. REMEMBER though...you are the mother, and in todays society, YOU make the final decisions. I'm only saying that because he may try to force you into putting the baby up for adoption, or even trying to have an abortion and if that's not what you want...you do NOT have to do it!
There are also councellors who can help you with this, and even if your parents are really flipped out at first...they'll probaby get themselves together and try to help you deal with this. Good luck!
2007-03-01 12:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you need to speak up soon, they are going to notice something soon. Speaking as a parent, they're gonna freak out..probably big time..but if they are any type of a parent then they will support you after all you are carrying their grand baby. As for the daddy, he's not a upstanding guy to leave you, I say leave well enough alone, maybe once you and your parents talk have a meeting with his parents. I'm so sorry you've been having to handle this yourself for 5 months. Good Luck
2007-03-01 11:04:09 · answer #7 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he knows that you're pregnant, it's *his* responsibility to tell his family, not you. So don't worry about it. Besides, once the baby is born and you go after him for child support (which you *really* should do since it's his kid too; you didn't create it alone!), they'll find out. And if they want to do something after that, that's up to them.
About your parents, if you think you can talk to your dad without him freaking out, do it soon.
Also, contact your local Planned Parenthood to get medical care for you and the baby, and to get free counseling to figure out how to approach everything. They're there to help you.
Good luck!
2007-03-01 11:05:02 · answer #8 · answered by alimagmel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are supposed to be getting prenatal care from a doctor, thinking about your baby instead of yourself and getting your act together. The truth is going to come out sooner or later, or are you going to keep hiding it until you are forced to give birth in a bathroom stall? Wise up girl..There is a baby on the way and you need to start being smarter about the choices you make. You need to tell your parents, you need to tell your ex, and you need to start deciding what is the right thing to do for the baby on the way.
2007-03-01 11:04:06 · answer #9 · answered by All I Hear Is Blah Blah Blah... 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i don't know what you should do, but i know that you should try and be friends until the baby is born. are you going to put the baby up for adoption? if you are, you won't have to speak to your ex-boyfriend for a while. once it's over in 4 months, everything will be okay.
remember that you are having a baby and that boyfriend of yours is the father of it. you are going to have to get along until your baby's birth. there's no other way. you're having a baby together. good luck!
now for the telling of the parents, maybe you should sit them all down at the dinner table, including the father (your boyfriend) and tell them. if you have any more questions, email me: grblue88@aol.com
2007-03-01 11:03:58 · answer #10 · answered by xoxo11 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋