Submission?

Question

I hear so many men speaking of women being submissive. However, some of their definitions of submission is practically slavery. My church teaches that a husband and wife are submissive to each other. I don't believe that submission has anything to do with a woman doing ALL of the housework and raising the children. In my opinion, submission is tryng to be supportive of each other and doing what's best for the family...and chosing your battles. What are your views?

Answer 1

Submission is a bad choice of word. This is a case of man's hands in the working. It is about surrender to the love you both have for the other.

We live in an industrialized society. It is not like the guys have to go out and hunt for food anymore. Women are now working to bring in money so what is the problem with us blokes helping around the house? What is fair is fair.

Women tend to be submissive to a man she trust. It is the way of the masculine and the feminine. It actually works better but a man most value his mate and work to be a responsive leader by way of consideration and acknowledgement of her thoughts and feelings. Leadership is not dictatorship and many men don't know the difference.

The feminine is the epitome of love so needs to be loved to feel complete. Love is validation in its purest form. If you love a woman you care about her every thought and feeling and will work to alleviate her stress as she would for you.

Men refuse to acknowledge they need help understanding the feminine energies. It first starts with validation, which is valuing your mates. Life is hard but home should be our sanctuary both for a woman and a man. Men so often turn their homes in to a den of domestic slavery for a woman forgetting it is supposed to be her place of rejuvenation as well.

As a man if you really care about the woman you love ask her how she feels about her life when driving from work to home. In her answer you will find the barometer of your ability to lead a successful family.

Answer 2

Submission is about someone having the final tiebreaker in a deadlocked situation. In a situation where the woman has more expertise, she makes the decision, and the man has to realize she's better at some things. Same with the women. It starts with each person having godly humilty and honesty, allowing the shkills of the other to be recognized.

In the event where no one will concede that the other has more expertise (a possible arrogance problem in there somewhere), or there is no clearly biblical answer, after consultation with godly advisors, the husband may need to make a decision, and the woman may need to accept that.

Answer 3

I agree with you. Housework should be shared, as well as raising the children, even though oftentimes it's normal if the woman does a bit more of those tasks if she's a stay-at-home mom (that doens't mean her husband shouldn't do the dishes though lol).
If both work, they should share the chores.

Men who base their slavery beliefs on religion are really lame.

Answer 4

Humans are a rebellious lot-so we hate the word 'submission' but God's views are the only views that matter. We can't pick and chose what we like out of the bible like its a buffet resturant, God said 'the woman is made for the man not the man for the woman' he also said 'the wife is to be submissive to her husband in all things'
[of course not sinful things, like lying for him etc.] if you are home all day why shouldn't you care for the home and children? God said the wife is to be the homemaker--ignore what women lib types tell you-- i always have cared for our home, but. if you work outside the home, your husband can be reminded to be considerate and help you, but don't nag him. His job is to work for you and your family, i have seen women in other countries who are really slaves for the men -they can't even speak up-or have any $ to themselves-its awful, we
American women have it good, believe me,

Answer 5

I agree with you on that. Submissive does not have to do with cleaning the house or watching kids. It's associated with bdsm, which is a playful thing you do while having sex. In general, submission has one true meaning, which is the opposite of domination.

Answer 6

The relationship between a husband and a wife is a picture of Christ and His bride, Eph 5. Its not a matter of male and female as much as it is roles. The husband is commanded to love his wife as Christ loved the church. How did Christ love the church? As a servant. He protects, provides and disciplines the church. No where in scripture is the wife told to love her husband. She is told to submit to her husband as unto the Lord. Her submission is in response to how her husband loves her, as Christ loved the church. In Titus it tell the older women to teach the younger women how to love their husbands. It also says the wife it to be the keeper of the home.

Tit 2:4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
Tit 2:5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

When a woman submits to her husband in reality she is submitting to the Lord as the husband allows Christ to love through him. Hope this helped.

Answer 7

i am a christian,but i have to admit i dont like that word at all,to me it kinda sounds like making a dog hunker down(haha)submission is giving over to the others wishes,i believe in being fair to one another and working together so no one has to be submissive,when we work together at the same thing for the same purpose we will accomplish what we set out to do........good luck and God Bless

Answer 8

Well I think in a good marige there should be no battles per say and I think submissive would be the oposite of contempt. contempt is what kills a relationship.

Answer 9

A good marriage has a woman who is submissive to her husband. This does not mean that the wife waits on her husband every waking second; however, in big decisions I definitely look to my husband to make the best choices for our family.

Answer 10

Some people interpret the church's teachings to serve their own purpose....it has nothing to do with what's right.

A word for that is called...selfish.