We are in a role reversal marriage. He stays home and is a full-time househusband and I am the full-time breadwinner. No kids in the picture at this time. We made this decision to have him home so he could get used to homemaking for when we have kids.
A lot of people are calling my husband lazy and calling for him to get a job. Let me tell you, I come home to a spotless house, wonderful dinners, and ironed clothes. I'm the luckiest woman on earth. That being said, he takes care of so much and will make a wonderful SAHD when the day comes that children are in the picture.
Therefore, why do people say he is "lazy" and needs a job?
2007-03-01 10:45:04 · 18 answers · asked by Claudia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People who say that are small-minded and not worth thinking about.
It's good when people find what works for them and makes them happy......good for both of you.
2007-03-01 10:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He gets called lazy because he isn't staying home taking care of kids while also keeping a clean house. That isn't work when there aren't kids involved. When you have kids then that's one thing but when there aren't kids then I think both people should work or be in school. Otherwise you have one person doing all the work while the other isn't doing that much. I stay home with my kids and that's tough work but if I took them out of the equation I'd only have about an hours worth of work a day. If nothing else your husband should be working so that you can save up money so that when you have to take maternity leave you can afford to.
2007-03-01 12:30:25 · answer #2 · answered by . 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Ha! Anyone who calls a homemaker "lazy" has never been a homemaker!
I quit my (low-paying) job when I got pregnant with our first child. I didn't even have the kid yet and I was busy (my husband, bless his heart, is untidy and eats a lot! I had my work cut out for me)! I think it's wonderful that he can set up his routines before you have kids.
My husband and I have talked about this a lot and if I ever get a higher-paying job than him, he can stay home with the kids in a heartbeat!
Running a home (and raising children) is a hard, but rewarding job! Not one for lazy people!
2007-03-01 10:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by that married chick 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you already know the answer for yourself, but you just feel the need to be defensive. People are intrigued and confused by anything out of the ordinary. You have to admit - a stay at home husband IS out of the ordinary. Therefore people WILL be intrigued and confused by it. You don't need to get defensive about it at all; if this is what works for you - then this is the way it should stay, end of story. The only "why" here is "why" do you even care what other people think or say? You can't be different, and yet not stand out. Get over it, and enjoy your life!
2007-03-01 10:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dont worry what others think! I think if he makes you happy that is all that matters. But if he wants to get ready for kids and see what it is really like maybe he could babysit through the day :)
It would be some extra money to stash away while your on leave to have your own little one... just a passing thought
2007-03-01 10:53:27 · answer #5 · answered by chrystal_lynn2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Claudia,
Gone are the days of the woman staying home and providing for family and being the little lady that waits for her husband. Men all over are taking on the role of Mr. Mom. Women are becoming increasingly successful in all areas of employment. Its just a changing world and people need to get used to it. As for people calling your husband lazy ect. They are just stuck in the old times and they may never change their beliefs. I think all is well with you. If you would like to chat later, I have yahoo messenger, let me know, ok You can e-mail me at six7@hotmail.com for additional chat, ok :)
2007-03-01 10:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by six7foru 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because that is what people were raised to believe and most people are uncomfortable with the idea of anything that doesn't fit inside set of ideals. Unfortunately there will always be closed minded individuals in the world but they are not worth worrying about.
2007-03-01 11:03:33 · answer #7 · answered by C T 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i dont think that it matters if people call him lazy if the 2 of you are happy with the living situation than dont worry about it it sounds like this is how he wants it to be so dotn let words get to you its not worth it you will stress him and you for nothing i hope that i helped
2007-03-01 10:51:20 · answer #8 · answered by marinewifey_05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he's keeping things up at home, there's not a problem. Most of us stay at home parents who do our job well know it's a lot of work!
2007-03-01 10:51:31 · answer #9 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they do it because you two have decided to live your lives as you see fit w/o asking them,people seem to think there are a set of rules that everyone should live by and if they dont there has got to be something wrong with them(lazy,crazysomething)it bothers some that they cant tell you how to live and when they try they are ignored for there superb information...........good luck and God Bless
2007-03-01 10:56:58 · answer #10 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋