Lately i have been being attracted to weomen and men. Is this normal??????????
2007-03-01 10:36:56 · 64 answers · asked by paintedpony72601 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do not worry. All human beings wonder at one time or another. But if you weren't born Bi, it is best to avoid it. After all, you are in charge of your brain and can overcome anything it tries to get away with.
2007-03-01 10:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by Armchair_Ninja 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I was really attracted to girls in high school, I even had a few girlfriends, I grew out of it I guess, I never found it anything to be ashamed of. girls can be easier to understand, (sometimes anything but) also they look better(and some times smell alot better) than men! plus at a young age guys can seem scary, at least you know the anatomy of your own sex. I do think that being Bi is completely un-human. I know lots of girls and guys that were, and some still are. sometimes its just a phase, other times its just the way your made. I think that we are made the way we are, and I don't think its sinnfull! but I really think the only person who can decide weather its right or wrong is you:) If you feel that thats who you are and thats what you want then go for it! just be carefull because there are a lot, and I mean a lot of people who can try to bring you down over it, and even more religious fanatics who believe its a sin against god.
but remember, if god does exist he/she made you a bit different, but thats okay because no 2 people are alike, and why would he make you the way you are if it was un-natural to have such attractions? I don't think its Bad, but as I said thats up to you and no one else, but as they say, God is love! and everything is about intention. If your intentions are good and loving then the act is good and loving, if the intention is hurtfull and evil then so will be the act.
just remember that sexual orientation is personal and never let any one tell you any different!
hope you live honestly and happily!
good luck!
2007-03-01 11:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by Yazz 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I think its normal, but the gays all say never trust a bi. And a lot of straights say a bi is just greedy for sex from anywhere. Both of my sisters had bi relationships and I think its probably OK if you have a willing partner and accept yourself for it. Just feel good about yourself and you'll be fine no matter what.
And in response to earlier posts: bi or gay is not unnatural or unhuman. It happens in nature and in humanity for as long as humans have existed. You're totally normal.
2007-03-04 04:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal. There are many bisexual people out there and there is nothing wrong with having those feeling. However if you are married, and you act on those feelings I do think it's wrong. Cheating is cheating. Just because you might be attracted to men other than your husband doesn't mean that it is ok to sleep with them and it should be the same if the person your attracted to is a woman.
2007-03-01 10:46:36 · answer #4 · answered by C T 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't really know if it is normal or not. I am a post bi. I went through a bi stage and am now happily married. I love my husband and would never cheat on him, but i love to look at the female body. and actually when i fantasize about anything but my husband it is 9 times out of 10 about a women. Good luck!!!
2007-03-01 10:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by mominkansas03 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are single, it isn't a problem.
If you are married, you have committed yourself to someone else and only them. I'm not saying it is abnormal to be attracted, but what I am saying is to not act on it!
Hell, I look at women who aren't my wife. She looks at other men who aren't me. It doesn't go any further than that. I find some of her bellydance mates very hot. I TOLD my wife. She knows I'm not going to hit on them. For that matter, I was very physically attracted to a classmate of mine during grad school. This was before I was married, but while we were dating and engaged. I never acted on that attraction, even though I met the other woman less than a month after I started dating my now-wife. I loved my girlfriend/fiancee/wife too much to do something that dishonest AND disrespectful!
So, the long and the short of it is: You can be attracted, but it does not go beyond that.
EDIT: The woman who answered two posts above me should get best answer. She has it perfectly right!! :)
2007-03-01 10:51:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Being Bi is okay. Not to worry on that. Just remember being Bi does not mean you cheat on the person your with for someone of the opposite or same sex. One relationship at a time; male or female.
I am Bi. I am married. I don't cheat. I only have sex with my husband. I chose him above all others.
2007-03-01 10:49:27 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
in the eyes of God, yes it is bad and not normal. By your feelings, your feelings are never wrong, it is what you feel. You can find men and women attractive but still not be bi, unless of course you have done sexual things with them. I dont know how old you are but if your relatively young then maybe your just trying to figure out who you are
2007-03-01 10:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hello It is ok to be that way. But it will be very hard for you.Are you ready to share the person you are with, with another person man or woman.Because it will come up. Just really think about it ok. Try being with a woman if you want. you will like most likely. But you still like men too.Just really think about it. Men will love it thinking ohh I will have her and another girl too. Just do not get used.RAY
2007-03-01 10:44:21 · answer #9 · answered by ????????????????????? 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
At first i didn't think it was, but its not a bad thing. Its okay to be bi. There's nothing wrong with it, and it doesn't mean your not normal. And who knows, maybe its just a phase or something your not so sure of, but you'll figure it out eventually.
2007-03-01 10:42:46 · answer #10 · answered by smile_91 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When I was 13-14, I went through a bi-curious phase which I grew out of. Give it a few years, and if you still find women attractive, just accept it.
2007-03-01 10:40:59 · answer #11 · answered by Linus 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋