It has been almost a year and I thought I was there, that is untill last weekend. I attended a kids camp where I was the 1st aider. I get a call the night of the camp and it was him. He was calling to inform me that his new partner's daughter would be at the camp. I was not a happy camper. Not because the child was there, because he has not said boo to me in over 4 months and now I get this call. That was upsetting enough, but when I had to go thru the paperwork, he was listed as "step-father". I know I shouldn't let this get to me but I can't help it. We were together for 18 years - high school sweet hearts and he always said he did not want children so we did not have any. This situation is tearing me apart.
2007-03-01 10:34:02 · 6 answers · asked by blackcatmingus 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u feel cheated out of a child u should have had. u feel as if he lied to u. yes it hurts, and we do feel we are over it than suddenly something happens to bring it all back. u were dealt a bad hand, from a bad man. yes it will tear u apart, he had no reason to call u about anything. u may need some therapy to get past this one. we only know we were not treated fairly by him, and than he seems to treat her better, it does hurt, it is heartbreaking. he had no business calling u upsetting u again, even when we do distance ourselves we do sometimes end up having to deal with them again sometime in life if we live in the same town. you feel cheated by this man, he cheated u out of children, now he is with a woman who has a child, and he seems to be okay with it. how sad for u, it does hurt us, we do think the other woman has something we don't, our ego's get hurt, as well as our self esteem, u need to find someone in life, have a child to share your life with.
2007-03-01 10:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess SO!! What an A**HOLE!! You asked for help getting over your soon-to-be ex. The only thing I can say is remember the bad times and never the good. You can work though the pain and anger later. Right now you are still hurt. Just be aware that no matter what he Used to Be, he is an A**HOLE NOW!!! I pity the "new partner" AND his step-child. He's not good enough for you anymore.
2007-03-01 18:51:17 · answer #2 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends by Dr Bruce Fisher & Dr Robert Alberti
2007-03-01 18:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by Paradox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, You are better than this. You are letting the past get to you. Live for now. Go out and meet people and have fun. Life is to short to think about this matter. You are smart and funny, You gave great self worth. You should never haft to think this way. Just let it go and do not let it get to you. RAY
2007-03-01 18:40:36 · answer #4 · answered by ????????????????????? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear...if you do not have kids...change your phone number...this will help you stop waiting for him to call you...you know you really miss him...
morn him...and be happy you are not soooooo old that you cannot get out and start to have some fun....
think of some life goals and things you would love to do...for you...i know it may be hard at this time..he has someone and you do not....but start thinking of what it would be like to have a whole new life...
make new friends...lots of them....join a support group...
be patient with yourself...but keep moving...
2007-03-01 18:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this wont be something you will get over any time soon it took me at least 3 years to half way get over my ex of 18 yrs. it was very hard and painful ,we have been divorced almost 15 yrs and i still hurt when i see him good luck to you
2007-03-01 18:43:00 · answer #6 · answered by sclady62001p 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋