This is my situation: I am in love with a man who still lives with the mother of his children. When we meet he told me about her and what i believed to be the truth about the situation. He said she was on her way out and the house is his. Not a problem since i was just getting out of relationship. Later, he introduced me to his family and even told his mother I was the on he wanted to marry me. His family loved me. Now it is a year and half later and she is still there. He claims he can't put her out cause of his kids. I have been dealing with him staying the night with me most of the time then going home some nights. I am getting tired of all this and have told him but all he does is agree that this isn't fair but makes no permement changes. I am lost should I leave or still have hope. Here is the winner on this he has proposed to me and is making plans to seriously marry me. What should I do???????
2007-03-01 10:29:17 · 7 answers · asked by mommysgirl78 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The sad thing is that she knows all about me and is still there. We have even had a 45 minute converstaion on the phone about nothing she just wanted to know more about me. Silly but true.
2007-03-01 10:47:44 · update #1
I hate to sound negative, but I gotta keep it real. Move on. It seems like he got engaged to you as a stall tactic to keep you around longer. He can can not and will not marry you with that woman living in his house....unless his kids are all about to be 18, then he could kick her out....if not, it's sweet dreams. Move on. You could do better with someone with out so much drama. Good Luck.
2007-03-01 10:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be giving an ultimatum right about now. Either he makes a clean break with the "mother of his children", or I would be gone. I'm afraid you're wasting your time by hanging out with him much longer, and missing out on other opportunities. This man is either extremely cunning, or is living in a lala land - either way, you're being taken for a ride. Good luck.
2007-03-01 18:40:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just playing you and by proposing he is just making it look like he is going to leave her. It has been a year and a half, it just dont look like he is going to leave her - sorry, but you should move on
2007-03-01 18:35:00 · answer #3 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The games people play, I'm sure he will continue on with this for a long as possible.
2007-03-01 18:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes stringing you along if he hasnt got out by now it is his intention not to,why should he everything is setup for him personally i dont believe i would believe anything he told me i doubt seriously his wife knows anything about his marriage proposal to you and he would be crazy upset if she found out ask him if he intends to invite his wife to the wedding
2007-03-01 18:38:34 · answer #5 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be strong and dump him, move on to someone single,he is most likely still sleeping with her too, don't be his fool
2007-03-01 18:33:57 · answer #6 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should leave
2007-03-01 18:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋