My 6 month old????

Question

My dughter is 6 months old... she constantly wants to be held... i cant put her down or she screams until she either falls asleep or i pick her back up.... i cannot turn my back to her otherwise she will start screaming... this is really starting to stress me out.. i dont know what to do anymore...all i want to do is cry .. because i cant get anything done because she wants to be held all the time.. i need advice anyone please?????????

Answer 1

Talk to you pediatrician about this, they can help you rule out that there is nothing physically wrong with the baby, and may have helpful suggestions for you. If you don't want to make a new appointment or wait till the next one, call the office and speak to a nurse or other staff. I have found that sometimes the nurses at pediatrician's offices often have better advice than the doctors when it comes to these types of situations!

Secondly, if you know that all of your daughter's needs are met: she is fed, changed, and not in pain; it is okay to put her down, let her cry and walk away. It is important for your to maintain your sanity and well-being in order for you to keep being a great parent. Many of the sad cases of shaken baby syndrome or other tragedies we see stem from a frustrated parent and a baby who won't stop crying. It is better for you to put the baby down and walk away until you can calm down yourself. The sounds of a crying baby actually produces cortisol in our brains, which is a hormone that triggers a stress response in our brains - so after hours (even minutes) of listening to a crying baby, we get VERY STRESSED!!

If you can, get someone to help you out. Your husband/boyfriend/friend/mom/sister, whatever. Have them just hold the baby while you shower, or do whatever you need to do to feel better. (I know it's hard to find help sometimes - I'm a single mom and it was difficult for me to find help at times)

As far as baby gear goes: our Baby Bjorn was a lifesaver. I carried my son in it everywhere because he hated being in his carseat unless we were in a moving car. They are kind of pricey but we got ours for a steal at TJMaxx. They also have them on Ebay and there are other brands that are less expensive and just as good. And I am sure I will get yelled at for this, but the Baby Einstein videos have been a lifesaver for me. I was all about not letting my baby watch tv before I had my son, but sometimes they are the only way I can get a load of laundry in! He doesn't watch them all the time but he LOVES them. You could probably parade a marching band in front of him while it is on and he wouldn't notice.

Anyway, sorry for the long answer, and I hope things get better for you. Having a young baby is the best and hardest thing you will probably ever do! Good luck to you both!

Answer 2

my daughter is 6 months and does this frequently too.. there are a few different things you can do... first i like to put her down (i got her an exersaucer, best thing i ever did- it's a lifesaver!), so i put her in the exersaucer and play with her for a little bit.. then i walk away to do whatever it is that i need to do... when she realizes i left the room or i'm not next to her and she cries i will immediately go back to her and sit by her on the floor for a minute (the crying stopes) and tell her that she's just fine, that mommy has to get some work done.. i will show her a few of her toys and then head off again to do whatever it is that i need to do. each time she cries you can lengthen the time that it takes you to get back to her.. and just leave her in the exersaucer, or having tummy time, or with her toys (wherever it is you want her to stay)-just go over to her, don't pick her up and tell her she's fine.. if she gets uncontrollable, then pick her up and hold her for a minute, soothe her, and then put her back down... i know how this can be, my baby used to never let me put her down or walk away.. and now she's getting better, and this is just how i did it... you can also try baby wearing, using a sling or front pack.. that helped me too.. i still put my baby in the front pack to go for walks during the day, so she feels close to me, but you also have your hands free... try and see what works best for the two of you... feel free to email me if you want.. i know what you're going through.. and i know how hard it can be.. i've broke down many times b/c of my daughter's screaming... ([e-mail]) i'm always available... and i'll try to help.

Answer 3

My daughter did the same thing!! Sadly, you just have to break them of it.. Try sitting on the floor w/ her and letting her play... atleast that will get her out of your lap-- the catch is that you might not be able to leave the room, but if you had something you had to do in that room, she will eventually learn she can play on the floor and you're right there. You might also want to get a sling to put her in, so you can pack her around and still do housework-- If you have a jumper or a swing that she can get in-- those help too... I would my girl in the jumper near the kitchen and cook while she jumped... it gave me 15-20 mins to get it done. Another idea, when she starts getting into things, give her draw and pantry space that she can get into in the kitchen (I spend a lot of time in the kitchen) and Chloe has a cabinet full of old tubbaware containers, she'll play and pull those out while I'm cooking or cleaning in there... yeah I gotta pick them up after-wards, but it beats packing her around.

It does get easier though... TRUST ME.. a few weeks after she learns to crawl, she'll be more independent and you'll get a few more breaks and you'll be able to leave the room and she'll come looking for you. Just hang in there--- and don't be afraid to ask someone to sit w/ her for a bit so you can catch a nap or get something done.

Answer 4

YOu need to let her cry. Not only is it absurd for you to have to hold her all the time, and unhealthy, and impractical, but you are setting up a VERY bad habit that will only get harder to break.

Here's what you need to do:
Using a kitchen timer or some such thing, put her down for five minutes at a time, several times a day, even though she cries. Keep yourself busy--go do laundry, make a phone call (in another room of course haha), or something. Make sure baby has some toys to play with and is safe, in the swing or playyard or whatever. Then when the five minutes is up, pick her up and comfort her. As soon as she gets used to the five minutes thing (in maybe a week?), up it to 10 minutes several times a day. Gradually work her up to where she can be by herself for a half hour and self-entertain; also you will be teaching yourself that it is OK to let her cry for a while, it won't hurt her.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

it's called separation anxiety. my son is almost 8 months old and he's still doing it. what i do is try to show him that i might be walking away but not for good. i talk to him when i'm out of the room for a moment (like if i have to go to the bathroom... lol) and i talk to him in a soothing voice when i have to put him down (ie. it's ok, you'll be alright - mommy's just going to do this for a moment) it's ok to hold your baby though, and although letting a baby "cry it out" is preferred by some parents, think of how you'd feel if you were distressed and nobody tried to calm you down.

it IS just a phase though, i havn't seen a baby yet that hasn't gone through it.

patience. that's all you can do... be patient with her.

Answer 7

This is a normal stage, you are just going to have to let her cry. Make sure everything is taken care of, put her in a playpen with some toys and do what you have to do. She isn't going to get used to being on her own if you keep holding her! Crying doesn't hurt a child! Try playing peek a boo with her, so she gets the idea that you will be back after you disappear. Talk to her while you are doing what you have to do so she can hear your voice, but don't keep picking her up!

Answer 8

as hard as it is you HAVE to put her down while you do what you need to. it'll only get worse if you continue to hold her and cuddle her. as long as you know that there's nothing really wrong besides she's not being held then tell her that you have to put her down to do the dishes, laundry, cook, etc. and give her a kiss and put her down and let her cry. whenever possible, don't carry her even if you're not busy b/c it really will get worse. move around the house and do what needs to be done and she'll get the idea. she can crawl (and eventually walk) after you and give her lots of love on the floor or in her seat or wherever but you gotta put her down.

Answer 9

Hold her when you can, she is only 6 months. But if you get to a point where you think you are going to lose it, put her down, it's better for her to cry a little than for you to get frustrated with her. She'll still love you tomorrow either way.

Answer 10

Get down to her level may she feels secure with you.
Try putting her in day care for 1 day just so she can get use to been away from you. Just take it slowly.
Is she developing at average paste
She may have learnt that cry leds to be picked up
so just let her cry for a while
I don't claim to be an expert