I used to wegiht 12o lbs before and now im 136 lbs at 5"4. I tried wearing sexy nice clothes (not provocative) to make me feel good about myself, went to the gym, put make up on but bottomline is it just doesn't work still. Everytime my hubby and I gets to the mood I just don't feel as much confident about myself already.
Everytime I look at myself I feel that there's something missing still. He gives me compliments but I feel like he is only saying that so I will not feel bad about it. I just don't know what's wrong with me.
2007-03-01 09:51:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok, thanks for your comments but seriously....I want to wear those nice lingeries but I cant seem to pull it off. I get really shy and he complains about me being frigid already...Is this a forever curse for mommies???
2007-03-01 10:08:05 · update #1
thanks paradox, I can totally relate to that breastfeeding thing (specially the saggy part)...
2007-03-01 10:17:48 · update #2
Relax. You have a husband that loves you. Don't over think this. Know that when you two are together sexually that it's because you love each other, not because you won a beauty pagent (I mean, scholarship program [wink]). Besides, you're only talking 16 pounds. Let it go, and get wild in the sack again. Before you were just a girl, now you're a HOT MAMA!! Go get'em!
2007-03-01 10:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, if your husband is into it...go for it girl!!! You chould be proud of the minimal weight u retained after childbirth! I know ways that can make u feel a bit sexy, and get u more relaxed...first, take a nice hot bubble bath, if u have lots of bubbles and u both can fit in tub, dim the lights and try messing around in tub, dim lights not only set the mood, but make u feel like u r hiding all those problem areas! Another thing to try is a black light, and wear something light pink or white when black light is on...u will look very good, no matter what ur weight!!! And pamper urslef right before, do ur hair, makeup, add body lotions or powder to make ur skin feel very soft, do u r nails. add some candles...maybe have a glass of wine to loosen urself up a bit. another thing, focus on ur husband and not urslef...give him nice massage with some oils, add some mood music and candles or that black light....tell him this night is all about him, with u knowing that his mind is set on "all about him night" , you are less likely to worry about what he thinks about ur body. I think you will both realize that no matter what you look like, if the love is there, its all good!!!! Good Luck
2007-03-01 10:30:00 · answer #2 · answered by combodeal2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It comes back on its own- just give it time. I have had 2 children and understand how you feel. I nursed and that helped take the weight off. After my first child it took me a year before I felt great and the second took about 3 years before I felt like completly back to me.
Adapting to a child and the rountine is draining. It often gets easier the older they become. Not sure have far post baby you are but often it takes awhile for hormones etc to even out as well.
Dont focus on your weight, focus on feeling great. Sexy is a state of mind.
Paradox
2007-03-01 10:06:40 · answer #3 · answered by Paradox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way your going to feel more confident is when your confident about how you look. Putting on make up and lingerie will only help for about a min. Give yourself some time, drop a couple of sizes, or whatever it takes to feel that you look good. It's natural to feel that way after a baby, Good Luck
2007-03-01 10:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by MedicineWoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg! 136! You cow! just kidding. that is thinner than like 80% of women in america. It's kinda hard to relate, even though I had a baby 7 months ago, and am still 2 sizes larger than my prepreg. It can be hard but it takes time. I still don't feel too bad for you, u can't be much bigger than a size 6.
2007-03-01 10:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by G&L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't complaining or giving you anything to worry about, why are you worrying?
Look only Demi Moore and Christie Brinkley look just as good after kids. Come on - most guys are unhappy their wives gained 50+ pounds - you gained 16? Oh no!
If your husband is happy be happy! Come on! If you repel him away he's going to be frustrated and miserable.
2007-03-01 09:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may laugh at the idea, but I went through a mastectomy and the best thing to make me feel positive about myself was I took a class in my town on seductive dancing (very low level strip). You can also buy videos (example: http://www.sexydancinglessons.com/classes.htm)
Maybe also, its your hormones - meaning you need a boost in feeling ready. I would talk to your /ob/gyn about this as it is natural after childbirth and throughout a women's life.
2007-03-01 10:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by katydid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're lucky. I still weigh 35 pounds more than before I gave birth, and he's almost 2!
2007-03-01 09:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by It's Just My Opinion 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i mean come on lol wait nvm oh my goodness gracious
2007-03-01 09:58:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋