Just a quick one for you guys and gals, on the 18th of this month it's mothers day and im dreading it this year as my wonderful mum passed away on Jan 6th of this year.
I really dont think i can face this particular day this year and just want to lock myself away and forget what day it is.
I know my mum would be really pi$$ed at me for feeling so low but it's to soon for me.
Any suggestions how i can cheer myself up on the day?
Many thanks.
2007-03-01 09:36:34 · 21 answers · asked by The Original Highbury Gal 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know how you feel the same thing happened to me only it wasn't really my mom it was my grandmother she raised me since i was two so she was more like my mom we did everything together that most kids do with there mom.
I found that the easiest way for me to deal with Mothers day is to honor her by doing something that she liked to do and that we always did together ours was cooking a nice meal and then going for a walk on which we would just talk, so I still cook the meal we always did, we always had irish stew with scones. and I still take the walk and and I still talk to her in my mind and the only thing that I really added to this was I buy one rose yellow was always her favorite and I place it in a special vase and set it on the window shelf where I can see it all day long, I do this as an act of remembrence and although it was painful the fist couple of times believe me it did help me get through the day and now it is nice to take that day and remember her and all the special things we did and the great relationship that we had and I don't feel the sadness as bad now although it is still there I feel and remember her as the caring and giving person that she was and I try to keep that going all year, by doing the same.
I'm not saying this will work for you but it is something you might want to try.
Sorry for your loss and best of luck to you and your in the future.
In rememberence of my
Grandmother
2007-03-01 10:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by juju 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You mom will not be upset with for feeling so low. Its only understandable that you feel this way. Not sure I can suggest anything that will cheer you up because it is going to be a very painful day for you to get through.
Maybe you could make it special by doing something that you and your mom used to enjoy doing together or a place that you both liked to go. Its not going to be easy and you will need to be guided by what you feel in your heart is right on the day, but this could be a way of making the day something personal between you and your mom.
I am sorry for your loss and time will help to make things easier to cope with. Just take each day a step at a time.
Hope this helps and take care:-)))
2007-03-01 09:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by Teejay 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This will be a really tough day for you, but you can get through it. There is nothing wrong with locking yourself away for the day, but make it worth while. Do something you used to enjoy doing with your mom - watch her favourite film etc. Take time out of the day to write a list of all the things you want to do with your life to make your mom proud. Make it a day when you can reflect on the good times you had with your mom.
You will cry, its only natural, but this is another 'first' out of the way.
2007-03-01 09:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost my mum a long time ago but i planted a apple tree in honour of her on the first mothers day it was a hugely difficult time but i look at the tree blossoming in spring and it reminds me of my mum everyday and i swear as the years have gone by the fruit just tastes so much sweeter like my mum its grown really tall and proud ..xx
2007-03-01 11:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by gillypop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mothers day isn't that important, a mother is special everyday not just one day a year. Get together with friends or family. I'm sure your mother wouldn't want you to grieve. If you had a good relationship with your mum she'll know & understand. If you didn't mothers are loving & forgiving, that's what makes them special!
2007-03-01 10:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by pauleypfan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
loosing someone we love is never easy...
and one of the hardest things is moving on...
Mothers Day should be rejoiced because this is your one day you can show, remember, love the person she was..
You may not believe this but I believe that the person you love is always there and they can see and feel your pain.
I love and miss my sister and every night I light a candle and say a few words.
Do you ever get the feeling sometimes that someone is looking out for you
Be happy and remember how beautiful she was and will always be in your heart
2007-03-01 09:47:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear you've lost your mum. Can't imagine how you must be feeling.
If you know she would be upset if you were so down, do something that you previously enjoyed doing with her.
Visit a place that reminds you of her and I know it sounds daft..... but talk to her, even if it's in your head (incase you feel silly!)
Good Luck, hope the day goes ok for you.
2007-03-01 09:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by lynn a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you're feeling. We burried my mother-in-law the day before Mother's Day - and reading this question has already made me emotional thinking about this year.
I'm not really sure what we're going to do, but I think you're right. You mother wouldn't want you to spend the day upset and feeling depressed. Granted, you're going to be sad, but try to do something to honor your mom's memory. Do something she enjoyed - or use the opportunity to reach out to others in the same situation (little kids for example).
2007-03-01 09:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first one is the worst.....i dont go to her grave as i would cry all day. She wouldn't have wanted me to be utterly bereft and so i dont torture myself by buying flowers or sitting crying at a graveyard....i jump out of bed in the morning and say Happy Mothers Day in my head, i go outside with my morning coffee and think about her for 15 minutes and then i get on with the day...dont torture yourself...Mums wouldn't want it.. i wouldn't want my kids to mess up their lives grieving.....One day crying is a day less to live.. I hope you will be ok....
2007-03-01 10:08:49 · answer #9 · answered by chris w. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom remains alive and lives over 2000 miles away. I basically think of of her while somebody ask approximately her. we are happy aside. She lost her mom at age 28 and took it very stressful because of the fact she lived close by and replaced into use to seeing her huge-unfold. She suggestion all of her toddlers to go faraway from domicile so the comparable element does no longer happen to them.
2016-09-30 02:00:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋